271 - I Call Bullsh*t
What do you do when you live in a world where there’s just so much bullshit going on?
Today on The Karen Kenney Show, we’re talking about what to do when it seems like the whole world is going crazy!
We’ll dive into our temptation to blame others for everything that’s going on and going wrong.
Plus, we’ll discuss how we can be a helper by examining our own behavior, cultivating inner strength, aligning with Love, and “tending to one’s own garden.”
This is an invitation to “become the alternative” to fear and to spread more love in the world!
KEY POINTS:
• Welcome baaaaack
• Bullsh*t Experiences
• Do Your Homework + Vet People/Businesses
• Overwhelming World Events
• Temptation to Blame Others
• Examine Our Own Behavior
• Cultivate Inner Strength
• Become The Alternative
KK BIO:
Karen Kenney is a certified Spiritual Mentor, Writer, Integrative Change Worker, Coach and Hypnotist. She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-BS, down-to-earth approach to Spirituality and transformational work.
KK is a wicked curious human being, a life-long learner, and has been an entrepreneur for over 20 years! She’s also a yoga teacher of 24+ years, a Certified Gateless Writing Instructor, and an author, speaker, retreat leader, and the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast.
She coaches both the conscious + unconscious mind using practical Neuroscience, Subconscious Reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis/Change Work, and Spiritual Mentorship. These tools help clients to regulate their nervous systems, remove blocks, rewrite stories, rewire beliefs, and reimagine what’s possible in their lives and business!
Karen encourages people to deepen their connection to Self, Source and Spirit in down-to-earth and actionable ways and wants them to have their own lived experience with spirituality and to not just “take her word for it”.
She helps people to shift their minds from fear to Love - using compassion, storytelling and humor. Her work is effective, efficient, memorable, and fun!
KK’s been a student of A Course in Miracles for close to 30 years, has been vegan for over 20 years, and believes that a little kindness can make a big difference.
Transcript
On this episode of the Karen Kenney Show, we're talking about... what do you do when you live in a world where there's just so much bullshit?
Karen Kenney:Stay tuned to find out!
Karen Kenney:It's the Karen Kenney Show.... Boop!!
Karen Kenney:Hey, welcome to the Karen Kenney show. Oh my gosh, I'm so excited to be back. It has felt like forever, forever. It's only been two months, eight weeks. I took a little pause,
Karen Kenney:I took a little break, and we're back, though, and I gotta say, I'm gonna say a couple of things, and we're gonna dive into today's episode all about why I'm calling
Karen Kenney:bullshit and what we can do about it. Okay, so first of all, thank you so much for those of you that wrote to me and told me you missed the show and that you were super
Karen Kenney:duper excited that it was coming back. Me too. I'm so excited that it was coming back the first couple of weeks not doing a show. It was wicked we had and those of you who
Karen Kenney:are loyal listeners, first of all, thank you so much. I appreciate you. You know that I I've talked extensively about how I need to fafo, right? F, A, F, O. I like to fuck
Karen Kenney:around and find out about things and how I feel about things, and that's usually how I discover what I think, what I feel, whatever is I gotta give it a shot. I gotta
Karen Kenney:experiment. I gotta follow that impulse when I feel like lit up about something, or like my in a teacher is giving me some guidance. I gotta listen to it and just see I often
Karen Kenney:say, I won't know until I do it, taste it, see it, feel it, talk to that person, check it out myself. So this has been a really good experiment for me to take these eight
Karen Kenney:weeks, these two months or whatever, off to see how it felt. And there were times, in the beginning it was wicked weird, and then I also noticed how I would see things out in
Karen Kenney:the world, or I would hear stories or whatever. And I would literally in my head, go, I gotta do a show about this. I gotta do a podcast about this. And I was like, you're
Karen Kenney:on break. You're taking a little sabbatical, a little pause. So I'm just so happy to be back. Thank you for you know, be being in the in the in the downtime zone with me. And
Karen Kenney:I hope you're back and you're listening, and you're as thrilled as I am to be here, so wicked excited to be here. Thank you so much. Okay, and then the other news before
Karen Kenney:we dive in, is I talked about, in my last episode that I did before the break, that when I came back, that we're going to be doing some, maybe some new things. And one
Karen Kenney:of those things is I created a tip jar. I'm so proud of myself. I am not the most techie person at all. And I was like, I'm gonna figure this out. So I just went and I I went
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Karen Kenney:be so grateful. Of course, obviously, just do what you can. Don't feel obligated. I really, if anybody is going to put cash in the tip jar, I really want it to be coming
Karen Kenney:from a place of love and not fear or guilt or weirdness or whatever. I on my last episode, I talked about how we created, I created a tip JAF of my sweetie, who's a
Karen Kenney:professional musician, my husband, Chris, Chris Lessa, but I never did one for myself, like I actually made him a physical one, right? We did that. And then he turned the
Karen Kenney:tables on me one day, and he said, Look, what you put out in the world is just as valuable as my music. You should create one of those as well. And I'm like, I don't know
Karen Kenney:how to do it electronically, but I figured it out. So you just go to Karen Kenney k, e n, n, e y, right? Karen kenney.com/tip, ja, one word, and you'll be able to make a
Karen Kenney:little donation if you want to. Okay, now, thank you. Thank you for listening to all that. Now, let's dive into this episode. I was a little torn about what I wanted to
Karen Kenney:call this one. I had two great titles, but I think the one I'm going to stick with is simply, I'm calling bullshit, first of all, because it makes me laugh. Also it makes me
Karen Kenney:makes me laugh, saying I'm calling bullshit, while Bob Ross is behind me and Mr. Rogers. Mr. Rogers is back there, too. Oh my gosh, is and but here, here's the thing, here's
Karen Kenney:the thing. I'm going to give you a couple of examples, or a few examples of things that I have experienced lately heard about that are just a little bullshitty. You know what? I
Karen Kenney:mean that I'm just like, What? What is happening? So here's some examples of the kind of bullshit that I that I have personally experienced, or a friend has
Karen Kenney:shared with me that they experience. He has one, somebody, a friend of mine from my childhood, from Lauren. Goes in to get their car repaired, and when they go in, it is
Karen Kenney:literally like the car repair people are making things up that are quote, unquote wrong with the car. Double Amen, hands, if you have ever experienced this yourself,
Karen Kenney:now, especially if you are of the female persuasion, right, a lot of times car people think that you're stupid. Now, I'm lucky enough that I have had the same service
Karen Kenney:adviser for my because I've only ever owned Toyotas, right? So I've had the same service provider for like, 20 some odd, 25 I don't know, even now, 28 years, whatever it's
Karen Kenney:been. So I'm lucky in that, and I trust, I trust my guy. Okay, shout out to s2 Sean snow. But a lot of people, right? They just use, like, a local garage or whatever. And
Karen Kenney:I'm not, look I I'm some of you will probably say, Oh, they do that all the time at Toyota or Mazda. I don't know. I'm only telling you about my own experience. But my
Karen Kenney:friend said they went in and they were just like, trying to lob on these, like, Phantom charges, you know? And I was like, What is that about? Like, what makes you want to
Karen Kenney:take advantage of your fellow brother or sister, like, or your fellow human being? Like, this is not cool. Like, not cool. I'm like, I'm calling bullshit on that, right?
Karen Kenney:And then, oh, here's another thing. So we were having some issues with the internet, right? With the interwebs. Like, I line wasn't consistent, and we called them and it
Karen Kenney:wasn't on our end. We weren't doing anything wrong, right? It had to do with the modem, or whatever the thing was, and they couldn't figure it out. They're like, we need to send
Karen Kenney:a tech out. Okay, great. So they're like, they're going to come out between, like, this four hour chunk of time. And I'm like, great. I cancel my plans. I gotta be at the
Karen Kenney:house, because obviously I use my internet to run my business and do things. And we wait and we wait and we wait. And as it's getting to the last few minutes of the four
Karen Kenney:hour window, I'm like, This guy isn't coming. I'm like, nobody is coming to our house today, so of course, I call them up, and I get this whole rigmarole, this whole
Karen Kenney:runaround about how, oh, the Tech had an emergency and he had to go home. So immediately, right, like you're the asshole for getting your panties and a bunch about
Karen Kenney:somebody having a family emergency, my big thing wasn't about him not showing up. It's the fact that, because life happens, I get it. It's that nobody bothered to tell me. So
Karen Kenney:I sat around and wasted my whole day waiting for this person to come so that I could, you know, let them in the house. People had to be here. It was just like, Oh my God. I'm
Karen Kenney:like, I'm calling bullshit on terrible, terrible customer service. Okay, here's another thing. When I was getting my septic pumped a few that sounds funny, doesn't it?
Karen Kenney:Okay, Paula, and we're back. I should say, when we were getting our septic pumped, the septic guide came out, and when you know, they put the big hose in. And those of you
Karen Kenney:who are on like, like, city water, like you don't have wells. You don't have septics. You may have never experienced this before in your life, but when you have a well,
Karen Kenney:right? And a septic tank, like you the earth provides you, it's water, and you put in a tank and all this stuff, you gotta get that thing pumped out, like every few years, or
Karen Kenney:whatever, depending on the size of your household. Okay, so while he's I'm fascinated. I am fascinated by, like, so many jobs that I don't have. So of course,
Karen Kenney:I'm always out there watching everything that they're doing. So we're out there, and he's got the big hose off the truck. It's like, making all this noise, and it's
Karen Kenney:sucking up, like, all this stuff. And then they get these wicked long like, like metal CRO about looking things, and they're like, pushing down all the float is all the stuff
Karen Kenney:that's down in the thing. I find, again, find the whole thing fascinating. So one of the things he says is he notices that there's, like, these roots and branches that
Karen Kenney:I'm going to get to my point, but there's these roots and branches that are like, kind of, we're growing into the septic. He's like, we gotta take care of that. Blah,
Karen Kenney:blah, blah. And then he found this wet wipe, this whitish, this white wet wipe attached to the thing. So, you know, I have plumbers in the family, and one of the things that
Karen Kenney:they have always told the women in the family is, don't flush your tampons down your septic. If you have a septic like it is so bad for the septic, it's going to clog it
Karen Kenney:up. So you think, like, okay, toilet paper can go down. And, of course, of course, those flushable, quote, unquote, blushable wipes can go down there because it says so
Karen Kenney:right on the package, right? Right on the package, it says, approved for a septic safety. Totally, totally safe for your septic attack, right? You know what all the
Karen Kenney:Plum is in my life? Tell me, though, and I didn't know this until that the guy doing the thing, he's like those. Things. They're like, you, you want to pay us to come back
Karen Kenney:because of all the damage it's going to do. He's like, don't use those. They're not flushable. I said, But, but it says right on the package, me, my, my, me and my, my
Karen Kenney:naiveness, right? My naivete. I said, it says right on the package. He goes, it's a lie. And I'm like, oh, Liar, liar. Pants on fire. Shame on you flushable Kleenex or
Karen Kenney:whatever the company was. I was like, that's a lie. So here's a little PSA, a little public service announcement, do not flush the quote, unquote flushables down the Plum
Karen Kenney:is in your life. Will Thank you. So no tampons, no pads, obviously, and no fussible wipes, because it's a lie. It's bullshit. I'm calling bullshit on that too. Know what
Karen Kenney:else I'm calling bullshit on? I'm calling bullshit on all and I'm not naming names or, like, pointing anybody out, but I'm just calling bullshit on like, coaches and
Karen Kenney:programs and businesses that make these outrageous claims and then don't follow up. I know so many entrepreneurs who are so discouraged, feel defeated, feel
Karen Kenney:downtrodden, write all these D words disappointed because they were sold a bill of goods. They it was a racket. It was their experience of that course, that coach, that
Karen Kenney:program, was a racket, and there's a lot of that going on out there. So you guys, I'm calling bullshit on some of that. And do your homework. Another little PSA. Do your
Karen Kenney:homework before you give your hard earned money, or your easy earned money, your resources, to somebody do your homework, ask around, have a call, make sure it's a good
Karen Kenney:fit. Make sure that it you know that there's a history there of good faith. You know what I'm saying? That's important. Last thing I'm going to call violence on, just for today,
Karen Kenney:is violence. We are a world. I can't even say country, nation, um, we are a world of humans who are hell bent on destroying each other. We are We are destroying our planet.
Karen Kenney:We are destroying all the animals, the ecosystem and each other. There is so much violence. And I'm not just talking about, like, the wars that are going on, the awful
Karen Kenney:things that are going on, where people and children and women are being raped and brutalized and murdered and young men and like all this stuff. And you know, however
Karen Kenney:you feel, however you feel about Trump trying to kill another human being, is just insane to me. It's just insane to me. I do not condone violence, especially, especially
Karen Kenney:as the kid of a murdered mother. I know the deep I just know the Deep Impact, like you can't take it back, kind of impact that, that that kind of violence that murder just
Karen Kenney:has on not only a person, but a family, a community and the people that are left behind, so and so, I just wanted to give you some examples of the things that I was
Karen Kenney:calling bullshit on, and you maybe can check some of these boxes of what I said. Maybe you've had a service provided that was, like, just not, not holding up their end of
Karen Kenney:the bag. And maybe you've dealt with a coach or somebody who really let you down and you like, regret spending all that money and not getting what you thought you were getting
Karen Kenney:right, etc, etc, etc. And the thing is, is that when we have multiple experiences, or ongoing experiences, of of, call it violence or bullshittery, when there is just so much
Karen Kenney:bullshittery happening all the time, it can feel like, right? It can feel really easy to start to have a sense of like, overwhelm, or even like, even slip into despair. And when
Karen Kenney:we start to feel that way, when we start to feel overwhelmed, or like in despair, or like, like, we're just consumed by all the awful, quote, unquote, awful things that are
Karen Kenney:happening in the world, all the terrible things where we don't feel like we know how to navigate, or we don't feel up to the task or up to the burden of trying to wade
Karen Kenney:through all the shit. Here's one of the things that can happen, okay? Is it can be so tempting to stay hyper focused on the out there and everything that's happening out
Karen Kenney:there, everything that's happening out there in that world, where we think that that is the cause, right, that all of this bullshit is the cause of our suffering. This is
Karen Kenney:something that we often experience, right? So much stuff is going on, and we just think, Oh, my God, the world is a shit show. There's so much crap going on, right? And we
Karen Kenney:feel at the mercy of the world, and it feels like that's the cause we're at the effect when we start to get caught up in that POV, that point of view, what? Happens is, is we
Karen Kenney:often will start to point fingers. We'll often start to say it's their fault, or it's that thing, or that company, that business, that President, that whatever, that that
Karen Kenney:political party, that whatever right somebody outside of me is now responsible for how I'm feeling right. And as soon as we do that, as soon as we start to point
Karen Kenney:fingers and like, assign blame and start to feel a little extra righteous, you know what I mean, we try to put the problem out there on them, like on other people. And when we
Karen Kenney:start to do that, it's really easy, right? And who here double Amen hands. If you've known somebody who chooses or prefers to focus on everybody else's bullshit and what
Karen Kenney:everybody else is doing wrong, mostly so that they don't have to look at their own stuff, right? We've all done it. We have all done it at some point. Got yourself a little
Karen Kenney:project, right? Got yourself a little project right? Whether that's a partner, a sweetie, a lover, a boyfriend, a girlfriend, whoever that, you can just be like, Oh yeah,
Karen Kenney:they're so or you start looking at your family members. You start looking at everybody else but the mirror. You start looking everywhere else, but except in the
Karen Kenney:mirror. And what I like to do is, right? The one thing, because we can't control so much of what happens out there in the world. I'm going to talk about the things we can
Karen Kenney:control in a moment. But we there's so much quote, unquote, out there that we can't control. All we can control is ourselves. So for me, when I start to feel like the
Karen Kenney:bullshit meters get like, the bullshit buckets getting a little too full for my taste, one of the things I do is like, I don't want to feel helpless. I don't want to
Karen Kenney:feel hopeless. I don't want to feel at the mercy of something outside of myself. So that is the perfect time to take a look at yourself, because this is how you actually
Karen Kenney:change it. Remember at the beginning I said, What do you do when you live in a world like Stay tuned to find out I'm about to tell you, this is one of the things that you can
Karen Kenney:do, is you start to turn the reflection on yourself. And it reminds me of a client that I once had who was in a relationship, and they were always, like, kind of
Karen Kenney:passive aggressively, like complaining about the other right? The other person, the other one. And eventually that relationship, no big surprise, failed. It fell apart, right?
Karen Kenney:And so when everybody's playing the blame game, they've forgotten they're on the same team. You know what I mean? So as long as everybody insists on being right and making
Karen Kenney:the other one bad or wrong, and giving the ego that fix of like, Yeah, I'm superior. I'm so special, whatever that That all leads to separation, which we can I'm going to
Karen Kenney:talk about in another episode. But so no, no big surprise that that relationship didn't, didn't, didn't make it right. And there was a lot of this is not a condescending thing,
Karen Kenney:a mean thing, a bad thing. I'm just saying, right? And I have said what I'm about to say to many people. So this isn't an identifier of anybody, but what happens is, when a
Karen Kenney:relationship ends in the other person is now no longer in the picture. What happens is, and I remember the conversation, and I remember them saying, well, all those things
Karen Kenney:I used to complain about, whether it's like the house was never clean, or they're always leaving their stuff around, or they do this, they do that, they do this, right? They were
Karen Kenney:kind of thinking about it. And they said, well, now I'm going to have a chance to and they pause, and I said, find out how full of shit you really are, right? Because when
Karen Kenney:there's nobody else around to blame, what often happens is pretty quickly, some other stuff starts to come into clear focus, and we start to realize that a lot of the stuff
Karen Kenney:that we complain about, we are either complicit in or we are the cause of it. So when we're willing to take a look at our own bullshit, and that's what I always say,
Karen Kenney:right as a mentor, like you, gotta be willing to own both your brilliance, like your brilliance, and your bullshit. Because if you don't look at that quote, unquote
Karen Kenney:shadow side, or that part of you that that is crying out for love or need your attention, if we don't look at it, it's like, it's like a child, right? I know so
Karen Kenney:many adults, it's like, I'm having a temp they're having a temper tantrum right now, right? It's kind of like the ego has a little temper tantrum when it's like,
Karen Kenney:looking out there and blaming everything on everybody else. Okay? We can't control what others do. We can't choose how they're being. We can't show like. We can't We can't
Karen Kenney:change who they're being. All we can do is ask ourselves, okay, and this is, this is the key here. Let's listen up. Listen up. This is the key. All we can do is. Is ask
Karen Kenney:ourselves as we take a look around at all the bullshit and all the chaos and all the stuff that we don't want, we don't like, we don't prefer, but we find ourselves still
Karen Kenney:experiencing all we can do in that moment is is ask ourselves, who am I being amongst all of this stuff. Who am I? Being amongst all of this bullshit, all of this chaos, all of
Karen Kenney:this violence, all of this stuff that isn't working, because that is the only thing that you really have any autonomy, authority, agency over. That's what you can actually
Karen Kenney:change your own mind, your own heart, your own thoughts, your own beliefs, your own stories, right? And when I say change our stories, it's not like we're going back and
Karen Kenney:pretending that awful things didn't happen, or that bad things didn't happen. What we're when I mean when I say change your story is we're going to change the meaning that we've
Karen Kenney:assigned to it, and we're going to change the way that we look at ourselves in relationship to those stories, because it's so important that we go back and look at our
Karen Kenney:own behavior and our own again, complicitness and our own ways of showing up, and when We find ourselves steeped in a little too much bullshit. The question is,
Karen Kenney:how much I wrote this down? So don't forget, here's the question asked, am I contributing in some way? Am I contributing in some way to filling up that bullshit bucket? You know
Karen Kenney:what I'm saying? What part of this is mine to own and what can I do? And this, to me, is like where it actually gets really exciting and interesting when things get
Karen Kenney:really hard. Now, look, I have been going through my own season trying to figure a few things out. None of us, none of us, are exempt right from growth opportunities. Let
Karen Kenney:me put it that way, none of us are exempt. So in mind, tend to be usually around like my business or my creativity, and what I'm creating in the world and how I'm feeling,
Karen Kenney:you know, called to serve, or what I'm offering, you know, all that stuff. So I've been in my own little season where I've been bumping up against myself and like, trying
Karen Kenney:to, like, oh, like, stretch a little bit outside my comfort zone and take a look at some things. So in A Course in Miracles, right? I kind of think of it. There's this
Karen Kenney:image that I often get when I think about A Course in Miracles, and I feel like, call it God, source, the divine the universe, right? We have each been given our own individual
Karen Kenney:curriculum. I'm going to do a whole podcast on that sometime, but we've given our own little pot of the garden. We have been given like our own little corner of the garden to
Karen Kenney:tend to, and if we're too busy looking out there what everybody else is doing in all their bullshit. Our own garden does not get like plowed. The seeds don't get planted,
Karen Kenney:the Weeds don't get plucked, and nothing grows there. And that's the place that we want to put our attention, in our own little corner of the garden. And maybe what you do
Karen Kenney:in your coordinate little corner of the garden is you do your own spiritual work, you do your own personal development, you do your own mindset stuff, you do your own
Karen Kenney:forgiveness, right? Your forgiveness work? That's a big one. That's a big one. I should do a whole. I should do a whole. I should do a series of podcasts on forgiveness, right?
Karen Kenney:But that's the thing, when we find ourselves kind of like, you know, chin deep in it, I can't change that some crazy person like, you know, is out there shooting up little
Karen Kenney:kids or going to malls or blowing up, like, I can't control what so many other people are doing. But I can look at myself. I can look at the quality of my own thoughts. I
Karen Kenney:can look at what's been in my mind, right on my mind and in my heart lately. I can take a look and see if I need to clean up my side of the street, my backyard. Do you know what
Karen Kenney:I'm saying? Like, take a look at like, my little corner, and sometimes we'll be called to do things like go vote or volunteer or start a support group or be a helper in some
Karen Kenney:way, you know. And that's always the next step. I say when we think about Mr. Rogers, and Mr. Rogers mom famously said to him, you know, whenever big, scary things in the
Karen Kenney:world happen, look for the help is, and I'm like, That's great. Look for the helpers. Calm down your nervous system by knowing that there are people who are getting off
Karen Kenney:their ass and doing stuff. But hey, you can also maybe become a helper, take the next step and get involved and do something. So I always think like when we're looking out
Karen Kenney:there and where. Like, okay, there is so much bullshit out there. And one of the things that I realized is this, I can either go out there and bitch and moan and try to
Karen Kenney:do like cancel culture and call people out and point fingers and name names and tell tell everybody how everybody is doing it wrong. Or, here's the big takeaway, here it
Karen Kenney:is, here it is. Or you become the alternative to what's going on. So when the world is lost in a frenzy of fear, you become the love that is the work when
Karen Kenney:everything is going crazy and the ego is shouting, fire, fire, fire, fear, right, fight, fight, fight, this is when we draw on our own inner strength, which hopefully we
Karen Kenney:are cultivating, right? Creating What ashwaran My teacher, is a Sanctum Sanctorum, that place within you that cannot be shaken, that sturdy, steady place like if you're
Karen Kenney:watching this, you can see me. I'm doing my alignment, right, my alignment hands right. The assignment is alignment, getting ourselves aligned through a DSP, a daily
Karen Kenney:spiritual practice, so that we can tap into that well of love, that deep, deep, deep well of the truth of who we are, that well of love, because that's what we're going to
Karen Kenney:water our garden with, and that's what we're going to go next door and help our neighbors water some stuff with too. Is that that well of love is available to us,
Karen Kenney:but we have to, like, do something sometimes, to remember, oh yeah, oh yeah. Instead of looking at all the things out there I don't want, I can become, I can be
Karen Kenney:the love that I want to see in the world. Right? As Gandhi supposedly said, I can be the change that I want to see in the world. Because if we're just sitting around waiting
Karen Kenney:for everybody else to change, we're going to be sitting here for a long ass time. Because not only do people often resist change, so does the brain, and most people who are
Karen Kenney:walking around making decisions in positions of power and living in the world. They usually this sounds kind of funny saying this, because I'm being a little sarcastic,
Karen Kenney:but they usually have a brain in their head, whether or not they use it in service for the for the whole good, that remains questionable, but you certainly can do that
Karen Kenney:yourself, because here's the thing, one of the things that, of course, in miracles has really taught me is that projection, right? What you are projecting from your mind out
Karen Kenney:onto the world is what you will see. Projection makes perception, okay? So another way of saying it, from A Course in Miracles, is the world is an outward picture
Karen Kenney:of an inward condition. The world is what we think it is what we project onto it. So when we want to change what's out there, less violence, more compassion, more kindness,
Karen Kenney:more mercy, we wait a little more time before we start spewing quote, unquote facts over the internet, when awful things happen and Everybody's rushing to be the first one
Karen Kenney:with the news, right? It's like this. You just see such a lack of spiritual discipline online, in the news, on social media, people lack some basic spiritual chops. Okay, so
Karen Kenney:much of the work that I do right in the nest, in my one to one programs, when I teach yoga, anything that I'm doing, I'm trying to infuse it. That's what this whole
Karen Kenney:show is about, telling stories that we can apply everyday spiritual principles too, right? I do some storytelling we so we can relate it to our lives and say, hey, here
Karen Kenney:are some spiritual principles down to earth applicable to those stories. If you found yourself, you recognize yourself in this, right? Here's some stuff you can do to help
Karen Kenney:that's what this whole show is about, spreading more love in the world, and one of the ways that we can do that is to get our minds right. To get our minds right, to
Karen Kenney:shift our minds from a thought system of fear to a thought system of love. How do I do that? And again, not Hawking my wares, but it's honest. You do it by you can come
Karen Kenney:and join my group, mentoring program, the nest. It's 50 bucks a month. You come in, it's like less than, like a small dunks. I don't even know it's like, like $1.50 a day,
Karen Kenney:right? And you get to be in a group of change makers, of people who are trying to be better human beings and to nourish. Spiritual selves, so we show up in the world
Karen Kenney:differently, so that we become the alternatives. Like when you look at your family trauma, your family history, it's like you get to be the one that says, hey,
Karen Kenney:this shit stops here with me. I'm gonna do it differently. I'm gonna become more self aware, I'm gonna take ownership of what I'm saying, what I'm thinking, what I'm doing,
Karen Kenney:who I'm being, the choices that I'm making. I'm not going to pass the buck. I'm not going to keep blaming who I am today, at 55 on my childhood. I'm going to choose right
Karen Kenney:to become the alternative. You go to your job and everybody else is bitching and moaning, right? Be the alternative. Do it differently, right? Don't pass the buck.
Karen Kenney:What's that saying? The buck stops here. I'm going to take responsibility. I'm going to show up a little early, I'm going to do my job to the best of my ability. I'm going to
Karen Kenney:take pride in my work, etc, etc, right? Because here's the thing, and I can hear, like, in the back of my head, right? I can hear this little voice like, oh, I can hear
Karen Kenney:somebody saying, so what do you mean? If it's projection, makes perception that you're saying, I'm responsible for all that violence. I'm responsible for these awful
Karen Kenney:things that happen in the world, not you, may be singularly, personally, okay, but all minds have joined. It's part of the collective consciousness. And let me give
Karen Kenney:you an example to make my point, right. We look around the world now you personally might not think that child sex trafficking is okay, or child pornography is okay, or
Karen Kenney:starving children is okay, or abusing animals is okay. Or, you know, the way that animals are and, hello, you know my vegan hat, right? I find, I find the way that
Karen Kenney:animals are treated on this planet, it's disgusting and it's awful and it's horrible and it's brutal, and it breaks my heart, to be honest, I'm always It breaks my heart.
Karen Kenney:Fact, okay, so here's the thing you might be thinking like, so I don't agree. I don't agree with so and so, you know going through this thing or I don't agree with hungry kids
Karen Kenney:or right? But enough people do, and that's what makes it possible out there, is that enough people in here, and I'm pointing to my head, my brain, enough people in here, in
Karen Kenney:their minds, find that okay, and that's why it hasn't changed out there, because if enough people said enough is enough, it would change out there if enough people
Karen Kenney:align their minds with love and enough people said, I'm not okay with the unhoused homeless, right situations that we have. I'm not okay with the level of the you know,
Karen Kenney:whatever, when we see something that is predominantly whether it's the way it whether it's a politician getting voted into office, or these things that we were just
Karen Kenney:like, why is it that we're the only country that doesn't have, like, health care for all right, free health care, or university like tuition free for all when we see things on a
Karen Kenney:major scale, It's because enough people are okay with it. Enough people have decided that it's not something that they want to change or think needs to change, and this is
Karen Kenney:why it's so important that when you start to feel disgruntled and you feel your bullshit bucket getting really, really full, we have to ask ourselves questions. So whenever I
Karen Kenney:see violence that I find disturbing. I always ask myself, where in me does violence still live? Where in me am I withholding love? Where in me am I holding a grievance?
Karen Kenney:Where in me Do I have any kind of violence, violent thoughts? Now, violence isn't always like you're going to go and hit somebody or stab somebody or physically altercate
Karen Kenney:somebody, but where have I been having attack thoughts? Where have I been having, like, really big judgments? Who am I not forgiving? Because those are the only things
Karen Kenney:I can actually do anything about. So I often say to say to my clients and people in the nest and stuff, if we want to see a less violent world, we have to choose to be less
Karen Kenney:violent in our own thoughts, words and actions. One of the reasons why I'm vegan is because that is a powerful way for me to make a difference by not participating in
Karen Kenney:the systems that keep animals in suffering, in rape, in slaughter, in in the most abusive conditions, right? I make a difference by what I put on my plate and
Karen Kenney:what I don't put in my mouth or in my body, what I don't wear on my body, what I don't wear on my skin, right? So there's all kinds of different ways, and if enough people do a
Karen Kenney:little bit, a lot gets done. And. That's how, right? That's how we push back against the bullshit. Is that it has to be enough individuals to collectively make a
Karen Kenney:difference. So the question isn't, well, what are they doing? And they did this. The question is, what am I doing, and how am I contributing to the bullshit? How am I
Karen Kenney:contributing to the problem? Not in a guilty way, not to sit there and, like, beat yourself up so you go into shame and regret and blame that I'm not saying that. It's
Karen Kenney:taking an honest look and saying, like, Yeah, I haven't been very kind lately, right? I have. My thoughts have not been on the on the bright side of life or whatever,
Karen Kenney:right? We have to take a look inside. We get to become the alternative to all the fear, because that's all that violence and all the bullshit and all the all the lazy, all the
Karen Kenney:stuff that we see that we're like, what the all the chaos that is the playground of the ego, right? And our job is to align ourselves more fiercely than ever, with
Karen Kenney:conviction, with faith, with conviction, right? With love. That's how things are going to change. And I often say like, I don't know if I'm going to be around to see,
Karen Kenney:to see, you know, I
Karen Kenney:think, you know, I'm not going to get the quote exactly right, but you know Martin Luther King, Jr, who says, you know that the act of justice, right, right? It bends. The
Karen Kenney:Act bends towards justice. And I'm just hoping. I'm hoping because I have, I have, I have great nephews. I have, you know, nephews. I have people in my life who are
Karen Kenney:having babies, you know, and I'm like, I want the world to be a better, more beautiful, more kind and merciful and compassionate place. And, you know, I'm 55 I
Karen Kenney:don't know how much longer I'll be around. So hopefully the world, I mean, I just think, like, man, we've gotta, we've gotta do our part. So if you are, you know
Karen Kenney:tempted, you know, whenever you're tempted to kind of focus on everybody else's bullshit, this is when we can take a look in the mirror. I call it taking a look in the
Karen Kenney:soul mirror and just really being as they say in 12 step programs, they say, like, take a fearless moral inventory. And that, to me, is one of the best things that we can
Karen Kenney:do. And when you start to recognize like, oh yeah, there's some places in my life where I'm a little full of shit, where I say I want to do a thing, or I say I want this,
Karen Kenney:but I actually don't take any of the steps to make it happen, right? Because it's really easy. This is a whole other podcast for another day. It's really easy to say
Karen Kenney:that you want the thing without doing the work to actually get the thing or be the thing. So you guys, I hope this was helpful in some way. I hope that you are envisioning
Karen Kenney:in your mind your own little corner of the God and what that looks like for you. And it might be your home, it might be your family, it might be your workplace. It might be, you
Karen Kenney:know, if you are some an entrepreneur like your business and how you serve the world, it's yours to tend to. And things grow, trust me, things grow in a much better
Karen Kenney:environment of love than they do in fear, you know. So I hope this is helpful in some way. I am so happy and delighted. I'm a little bit giddy to tell you the truth, I'm
Karen Kenney:so happy to be back. Feels like coming home like in the best way. So thank you so much for being here. My sweetie and I might be playing around with the intro, so stay tuned
Karen Kenney:for that. I don't know if it's gonna happen on this episode or another one. I just am like, yeah. I just want it to be more simple and fun and easy, you know, and to really
Karen Kenney:represent like me and my personality and how I feel about things. So we might, we might tweak that sucka, too. But look, if you feel like you've got something beneficial from
Karen Kenney:this episode, that there's somebody in your life, you think, who could, you know, it would, it would be good for them to hear this, you know, maybe they've been a little
Karen Kenney:down the dumps of how things have been. Share this. That's a great way of spreading love is share this with somebody that you care about, somebody you love, somebody that
Karen Kenney:you're thinking of, somebody who you just think might enjoy it, whatever. Right? Somebody's got long car rides, and they could do some do some easy listening on
Karen Kenney:their car rides. Sharing the show is one of a great ways to help spread more love. And if you want to try out the new tip, ja, I'm not going to stop you. I'd be wicked happy.
Karen Kenney:So just remember, go to Karen kenney.com/tipjat, we'll see what happens. I'm playing with it. I'm doing an experiment. But some of you may remember
Karen Kenney:from my last episode that one of the reasons why I took a hiatus is that, you know, I, for a long time, had had a producer that I paid to do this show, and over the last five
Karen Kenney:years I've chipped out like, quite a bit of cash, like over $25,000 and so I was like, Okay, we're gonna hit pause, and we're gonna find some ways to maybe support the show. So
Karen Kenney:if your hat feels called to support the show and what I'm doing and what I'm trying to do in the world by spreading more love, I would be so grateful to just thank you so much for
Karen Kenney:that. Okay. Okay, you guys, wherever you go, keep your eyes on your own paper, right? It's tempting to look out there, but wherever you go, okay, may you, may you
Karen Kenney:leave the people, the animals, the places, the environment, the world, better than how you first found it, wherever you go, may you and your presence and your energy be a
Karen Kenney:blessing. Bye. You.
