Ask For Support, Not Permission

I’ve been wanting to talk about this concept about “asking for support, not permission” more in depth for a long time now.

It’s come up again and again in conversations with other entrepreneurs and also on podcasts where I’ve been a guest. I’ve touched upon the subject, but this episode gives me a chance to dive in a little deeper..

If you’re an entrepreneur, business owner or you sell things (services, products, programs, etc) there comes a moment in the conversation with a potential client or customer about wanting to sign up to work together, join the program, buy the product and the inevitable question of “payment” or moving forward with making the investment?

Today on the Karen Kenney Show, we’re talking about the thing that sometimes happens when you talk with a person who already knows they want to work with you, they feel it in their gut that you’re the right mentor/coach/company/solution for them or their problem and they even say, “Yes! I want to do this or buy this thing or take that leap of faith...”

BUT…

And I’ve seen this time and time again, where the person will be 100% ready to go, they’re wicked excited to begin, they might even ask for the sign up link and then they say something like, “I just have to talk to my husband/wife/sweetie/partner first.”

They move from their inner, intuitive knowing, where they were lit up and excited to go, grow, heal, and expand, into now having to talk to someone else before they invest in themselves, their calling or their business.

This conversation can unfortunately be the place where dreams go to die.

Because the partner might not be an entrepreneur or may not understand or believe in the importance of mentors/coaches, spiritual growth or investing in personal development. They might also not have the same dreams, vision or purpose as you do. They might not share the same money stories or they may be more risk averse than you are.

This is where asking for support rather than permission comes into play.

Now, I know that there’s lots of different financial situations and nuanced processes around decision making in relationships, especially when it comes to spending money. So this isn’t a judgment.

This episode is an exploration about these kinds of conversations and hopefully a helpful way to approach them. It helps to know yourself, know what you want and need and to lead with love instead of fear, so you can find the courage to ask for support to back you up, rather than the permission to take the first step.

KK's Takeaways:

• I Just Need To Talk To (5:56)
• Justify My Desire (9:19)
• They Aren’t Willing To Take The Risks (18:29)
• Investing In Yourself (24:15)
• Squirrel Away Your Investment (31:08)
• I Believe In Myself (41:02)

Karen Kenney is a Certified Spiritual Mentor, Certified Hypnotist, writer, speaker, and the host of The Karen Kenney Show Podcast. She’s also the founder of THE NEST, a powerful & practical online spiritual membership, mentorship & community.

She’s been a student & guide of A Course in Miracles for close to three decades, a certified yoga teacher for 20+ years and is a longtime practitioner of Passage Meditation. She’s also a certified Gateless Writing Instructor, transformational retreat leader and has been an “accidental entrepreneur” for over 20 years.

KK grew up in Lawrence & Boston, MA, and graduated from Boston University with a degree in Communications. She’s known for her storytelling, her sense of humor and her no BS approach to Spirituality.

It’s part of Karen’s calling to help people rewrite their old stories, shift their perception from fear to Love, and deepen their connection to Self, Source & Spirit! She calls this transformational work, Your Story to Your Glory and it lights her up to see how putting this “down to earth” Divine alchemy into action, helps people to feel more empowered, happy, grateful and peaceful in their everyday lives!

A sought-after speaker, spiritual teacher, and wicked fun guest for podcasts, live events, group retreats and mastermind programs, Karen’s been invited to speak & teach on various platforms, stages & retreat centers across the country, including leading four weeklong workshops at the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies.