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23rd Jan 2020

It’s Not A Grief Competition

OK, so here's something interesting that I've discovered over the last 40 or so years... Grief & Love situations can make people say all kinds of clumsy shit. Ha!

I don’t think they “mean” to say things that are hurtful - it’s just that they sometimes don’t “think” before opening their mouths.

They’re sometimes blinded by their own pain, need to be special or their reluctance to be vulnerable - that they’re not able to see beyond their own beliefs, feelings, or suffering.

Given this, they literally can’t or don’t even try to understand that what they say or how they say it might sound “so not soothing” to someone else.

Like, have you ever found yourself in one of the following scenarios, where someone says something to you to either try to downplay your grief... For example, after the death of a “furry kid” or beloved pet, “But it was just a dog/cat/etc”?

Or they try to "outdo" any other grief that’s ever come before or will ever come after with a comment like: “THIS ___ (fill in the blank)_____ is the worst thing that could ever happen.”

Like, kinda' sending the message... "Look, don't even TRY to compare your loss to mine sucker, because I will out grief you. I will win." HA!

Of course, we may not know EXACTLY what it’s like to have those specific tragic experiences, but we’ve all had our own difficult losses in one way or another. It’s not really kind or fair to try and compare them.

From one person to the next, grief can look very different but that doesn’t mean it's any less debilitating. Grief is not a competition. Neither is love. We shouldn’t be trying to beat one another in comparing our level of loss or the depth of our love.

Today on The Karen Kenney Show, we take a look at how grief and love can affect each of us in its and our own way and that we're not here to compete about it.

Please join me in opening our hearts and minds to understanding how our statements can deeply affect everyone, especially those that are already suffering a loss; whether that be a pet, a spouse, a parent or a child.

What You’ll Learn On This Episode:

This Is Going To Leave A Mark (5:05)
Heading Toward A World Of Pain (11:53)

You Don’t Know What Real Love Is (19:05)

You Must Be Vigilant (32:00)

Karen Kenney is a writer, speaker, and the founder of Fearless Flow Mentoring.

She’s a certified Spiritual Mentor, has been a student & guide of A Course in Miracles for 26+ years and a longtime student of Passage Meditation. She’s also a Gateless Writing Teacher and has been a yoga teacher since 2001.

KK grew up in Lawrence & Boston, MA and is known for her storytelling, her sense of humor and her “down-to-earth” approach to spirituality. Her signature mentoring programs: Your Story to Your Glory™ & Fearless Flow™ help people let go of their old stories of suffering and victimization, so they can write a new kick-ass story from a place of inner power, forgiveness, freedom and Spirit.

A sought-after expert and Spiritual Thought Leader for Live Events, Podcasts, Coaching Programs and Shows, Karen speaks on stages across the country and leads Transformational Retreats in the New England area and at the Omega Institute in NY.


KK is the host of The Karen Kenney Show Podcast & The Sunday Spiritual with Karen Kenney.

She’s currently at work on her memoir.

You can learn more and connect with Karen at:

WEBSITE: https://www.karenkenney.com/

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About the Podcast

The Karen Kenney Show
Karen Kenney is a certified Spiritual Mentor, Writer, Integrative Change Worker, Coach and Hypnotist. She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-BS, down-to-earth approach to Spirituality and transformational work.

KK is a wicked curious human being, a life-long learner, and has been an entrepreneur for over 20 years! She’s also a yoga teacher of 24+ years, a Certified Gateless Writing Instructor, and an author, speaker, retreat leader, and the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast.

She coaches both the conscious + unconscious mind using practical Neuroscience, Subconscious Reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis/Change Work, and Spiritual Mentorship. These tools help clients to regulate their nervous systems, remove blocks, rewrite stories, rewire beliefs, and reimagine what’s possible in their lives and business!

Karen encourages people to deepen their connection to Self, Source and Spirit in down-to-earth and actionable ways and wants them to have their own lived experience with spirituality and to not just “take her word for it”.

She helps people to shift their minds from fear to Love - using compassion, storytelling and humor. Her work is effective, efficient, memorable, and fun!
KK’s been a student of A Course in Miracles for close to 30 years, has been vegan for over 20 years, and believes that a little kindness can make a big difference.

KK WEBSITE: www.karenkenney.com

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Karen Kenney

Karen Kenney (KK) is a certified Spiritual Mentor, Writer, Hypnotist, Speaker, Change Worker and Coach. She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent and her no-BS approach to Spirituality and transformational work.

She’s the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast, plus she's been a yoga teacher for 24+ years, and is a Certified Gateless Writing Instructor.

A curious human being, life-long learner and an entrepreneur for 20+ years, KK brings a down-to-earth perspective to applying practical spiritual principles and brain science that create powerful shifts in people’s lives and businesses.

She works with people in her 1:1 program THE QUEST, and offers a collective learning experience via her online workshops and her in-person transformational retreats. She supports and shifts both the conscious and unconscious mind by combining practical tools from Neuroscience, Subconscious Reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis, and Spiritual Mentorship - which help clients regulate their nervous systems, remove habituated blocks, rewrite old stories, rewire new beliefs, and reimagine what’s possible!

KK wants her clients to have their own lived experience with spirituality and to not just “take her word for it”. She encourages people to deepen their personal connection to Self, Source and Spirit in tangible, relatable, and actionable ways without losing sight of the magic!

Her process called: “Your Story To Your Glory” helps people to shift from an old thought system of fear to one of Love - using compassion, un-shaming, laughter and humor - her work is effective, efficient, and it’s also wicked fun!

KK’s been a student of A Course in Miracles for close to 30 years, has been vegan for over 20 years, and believes that a little kindness can make a big difference.

You can learn more & connect with KK at: www.karenkenney.com