Episode 324

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24th Jul 2025

RESERVING JUDGMENT

On this episode of The Karen Kenney Show, we’re talking about something we all ​do and sometimes struggle with: judgment.  

You know that voice in your head that's wicked quick to criticize you, make assumptions about others, or have an opinion on things that you may not really know anything about?

I'm sharing why that ego-voice of judgment is full of shit and how it's actually keeps us stuck and separate from real human connection. 

I also drop us all (myself included) a gentle reminder about how we literally have no idea what kind of situations or suffering other people are navigating or going through.  

I share stories about friends who've lost parents, who’ve had to say goodbye to beloved pets, and are dealing with massive life challenges - all while looking totally fine on the outside.

People are sometimes walking around with “open wounds” we can't see, so maybe we could all use a little more compassion and care, and a lot less judgment. 

My big takeaway (and challenge to you) is to get curious instead of critical.

When you catch yourself judging someone - whether it's how they look, what they're doing, or who they are - pause and ask, "What don't I know about their story?" 

Turns out, we're not all-knowing gods after all, and pretending we are is just our ego playing tricks on us. 😆

I wrap this episode up by sharing some spiritual wisdom about self-observation, and how humor can be a powerful tool to interrupt those harsh inner-narratives.  

The thing is, we're all just a bunch of clumsy humans, so let's do our best to reserve judgment, and instead, let’s lead with love, curiosity, and a whole lot of grace!

 

KK’S KEY TAKEAWAYS:

•​ Judgment is the ego's default mode, but we can interrupt this pattern with curiosity and compassion.

•​ We just don’t know the full story of what someone is experiencing or going through.

•​ Personal discernment is different from judgment - it's about choosing what's right for you, not condemning others.

•​ “The highest form of spiritual practice is self-observation without judgment.”

•​ Humor can be a powerful tool to break the cycle of self-criticism and judgment.

•​ Most people are walking around with unseen wounds and fighting battles we know nothing about.

•​ Our brains naturally want to categorize and judge to feel safe, but this limits our understanding of others.

•​ We cannot truly judge anything - because we lack an omniscient perspective on the past, present, and future.

•​ Compassion and curiosity are more transformative than criticism and quick assumptions.

BIO:

Spiritual mentor and writer Karen Kenney uses humor and dynamic storytelling to bring a down-to-earth, no-BS perspective to self-development. 

Bringing together tools that coach the conscious and unconscious mind, Karen helps clients deepen their connections with Self, and discover their unique understandings of spirituality. 

Her practice combines neuroscience, subconscious reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis, somatics, spiritual mentoring, and other holistic modalities to help regulate the nervous system, examine internal narratives, remove blocks, and reimagine what’s possible. 

A passionate yoga teacher, long-time student of A Course in Miracles, and Gateless Writing instructor, Karen is a frequent speaker and retreat leader. Via her programs The Quest and The Nest, she coaches individuals and groups. 

With The Karen Kenney Podcast, she encourages listeners to shift from a thought system of fear to one of love, compassion, and personal responsibility. 

 

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Transcript
Karen Kenney:

Hey you guys, welcome to the Karen Kenney

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show. I'm so happy to be here with you today, and I just want

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to talk about something that's been kind of weighing on my my

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hat. In my mind, it's been kind of like ricocheting ricochet.

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Remember ricochet rabbit?

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Some of you are going to be in the right age group to

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remember that cartoon. Bing, bing, bing, Ricochet rabbit.

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This, these

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thoughts of what I want to talk about today. I've

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been kind of ricocheting around in my hat and in my mind, and I

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know that I've talked about this and other episodes and little

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snippets, like little sip sips, as Linda Ty says here and there.

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But I wanted to kind of dive into this a little bit more,

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because I think now more it's, I always say it's not now so much,

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now more than ever, but right now in the world, we really,

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really, really could use a little bit more of reserving

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judgment, and what I mean by that is, and I'll share some of

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the experiences that I've been having and how this this episode

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came to be. But really it just stems from talking with people,

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you know, not just talking with people, but really listening to

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people, really just kind of being with people and hearing

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them when they talk. You know, a lot of times when we're engaging

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in conversation with people, especially people that we are

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very familiar with or know and love, like relationships that

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are close, and whether that's your sweetie or family or

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friends or whatever, people that we've already kind of created an

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idea of in our mind. You know, we tend to, you know, the brain

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likes to keep things in the familiar. That's how it

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experiences safety, and it feels like it saves time and it's

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efficient, but it also can do us a disservice, because it doesn't

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allow us to kind of see outside the boxes of our own creations.

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So I've been thinking about this idea of reserving judgment,

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because the fact of the matter is, is that we often don't have

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all the information. We do not know the full scope. We don't

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know the whole story of a person and their history and what

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they're currently going through, and the ego loves to judge and

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to slap labels and to determine things when it doesn't have all

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the facts, it doesn't have all the helpful information. And so

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I was at a workshop I was involved in. I led a workshop

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for this five day residency at St Anselm's College, and I'm

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going to talk about that in a second. And but because of that

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residency, and me doing that workshop, I ended up stopping by

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a place where a couple of friends work, and I talked with

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them, and, you know, I've just been interacting with people and

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really listening. And, you know, it's fascinating, because it's a

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powerful, powerful reminder, when you sit down and talk with

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people, that we and I will just talk in the first person. So my

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own experience, I often have no idea what another person is

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going through, and it's really easy to look at another person

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and judge them. It's really easy to hear somebody else talk, and

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you might just hear their accent, or you hear something,

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and you immediately try to label them or judge them, right? And

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we don't look past the surface of things. The ego doesn't like

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to go very deep. It doesn't. It likes to stay on the shallow

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part of life. It likes the brain likes to stay in its conditions

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and its patterns. And we're like, this equals that, right?

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We hear this, we think that, we assume that, right? We label

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that, we judge that. And so often I'm so grateful. Let me

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say this like, I'm so grateful for the reminder that I don't

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know shit. You know what I mean? Like, I'm so grateful for the

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reminder that it's really important that I keep my hat in

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my mind open, I keep my ears open, and I kind of keep my big

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mouth fucking shut. Sometimes, you know what I'm saying, it's

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like to really listen. And because I was interacting with

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all these different people, my sweetie also had a sold out show

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or own almost sold out show at Hampton Beach casino ballroom

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this weekend. So I was just people. Thing this past few

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days, right? I was around a lot of people, listening to a lot of

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people talking with a lot of people, shaking hands, catching

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up, giving hugs, the whole thing. And one of the things

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that I walked away with again is that things aren't always

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obvious on the outside. You know, I was talking with a

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friend, and, you know, we were just kind of like catching up.

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We hadn't seen each other in many months, and as we're

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talking, they just kind of let me know that both of their

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parents had died within days of each other. These are parents in

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their 60s. These were young people, and I just looked at

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them, and I was like, wait, what? Now? On the outside, if

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you just saw this person, you would just think, they're fine,

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they're beautiful, they're bubbly. Life is good, like going

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through, they're working, they're doing whatever. And when

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they told me this, I literally just like, was stopped in my

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tracks, and I said, Wait, what? What did you just say? And I

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realized, you know, again, it's not like this is a new

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realization. This isn't something that you, dear

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listener, haven't thought before or realized before, but we

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forget it. We like let it slip through our fingers. We too

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casually, forget that we do not know what our brothers and

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sisters and fellow humans, right? The other, other gods,

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other kids, right? The other, the other humans and animals

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that inhabit this planet. We sometimes stop really seeing

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them. We stop being curious. And this is, this is one of the

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worst things about judgment, is it kills your curiosity, because

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you show up in a place of assumption, you show up in a

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place of judgment, you show up in a place of I already know

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when we don't know. Again, it's not always obvious on the

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surface, externally, what people are showing us doesn't always

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match what's actually going on inside of them. And, you know, I

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have another friend who lost their precious dog who was like,

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you know, those of you animal lovers are often having a really

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different experience than people who are just like, Oh, it's just

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a dog. No, it's not just a dog, right to us. It's like our

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family members. It's our beloved companions. It's they're our

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furry kids. They are part of the family like we love them deeply,

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deeply, deeply. And you know, when you lose a beloved animal,

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a beloved pet, it rocks your world. And I've known people who

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the loss of an animal, for them was worse than the loss of a

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human, a family member, because it's very uncomplicated. The

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love that we have with our animals, there is a sweetness,

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there is an unconditional love that can happen. It's not

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complicated like it is with human relationships. So that

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loss can be such a searing loss, you know. And I was talking to

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this friend who had lost their dog. And, you know, on the

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outside again, they're usually a very bubbly person, a very

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upbeat person, and underneath this, you know, because life

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goes on and people do still have to go to work, and they do still

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have to show up at their jobs, and they do still have to kind

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of participate in life. They can't just, like, lock up in

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their houses for weeks on end. But so many people are moving to

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the world with at the moment, like an open wound, like a

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gaping wound from some searing loss that they just had, you

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know. And I read about how another friend, you know, her

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husband, just got the diagnosis that his cancer treatments, that

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there's nothing else that they can do, that this is it. They've

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now shifted. They're on hospice watch, you know, and yet these

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people are just out in the world walking around. And I often

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think, you know, we're not, how do I say this? You know, we're

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not damaged goods. It's not like we're broken and we're a mess

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and whatever, but we are sometimes temporarily wounded,

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and sometimes we're walking around carrying burdens and and

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and trying to navigate life changing, life altering news or

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situations or whatever. And everybody else is so caught up

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in their own thing, in their own perceptions, in their own

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judgments, and we have no idea what our fellow human beings are

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going through. We make these assumptions and we cast our

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judgment, you know, and somebody might be short with you at the

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checkout line at the grocery store, and it's so easy to be

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like, well, aren't they a cranky pants, or they're such a bitch,

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or they're this, or they're that, or they're not very nice,

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or they're, you know, somebody just might be simply shy because

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they grew up in an environment where they weren't ever seen.

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And to be seen was to be hurt, right? Was to be attacked or

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abused or maimed in some way. And so they. Withdraw, and then

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people think they're stuck up or they're a snob because they are

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not investigating. And there's a quote, I don't know if I'm going

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to get it right, but I just I doesn't matter. I might even do

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a whole podcast about this and but it says something like,

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there is nothing more ignorant than contempt prior to

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investigation. I think I'm getting that right. There's

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nothing more ignorant than contempt prior to investigation,

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and this is what our judgment does sometimes, is we cast

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judgment on another person when we don't have all the

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information because we weren't curious enough to ask, we didn't

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care enough to slow down to actually ask, and we like to ask

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these kinds of questions, like, how are you when we actually

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really don't care the about the answer? We don't want to hear

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the answer. We don't want to hear about your trauma or your

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drama or your stuff. People are just like, I'm too busy. I'm too

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bogged down with my own shit. I don't have room or time for your

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shit. And the thing is, is that this, if we could just all,

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like, remember, like, sear this into our brains, like, leave

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ourselves notes somewhere that reminds us that that old phrase,

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right? Everybody is fighting a battle, and I would say an

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unseen battle. So like, be kind to one another. Like, I cannot

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stress this enough, we have no idea what people's stories are.

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We have no idea. Again, we make assumptions based on people's

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like, what the human eyes can see. So when we look at another

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human being, a lot of times, what people are doing with their

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eyeballs is they're sizing up what they're seeing in front of

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us. They do this by gender. They do this by skin color. They do

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this by body shape, height, weight, form. They look at the

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form in front of them, and they make all kinds of judgments and

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assumptions about people. And if they just took a little extra

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time to actually inquire and get to know, and I'm like, you don't

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even have to like as part of this, right? Because it's really

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easy to then judge yourself for judging, right? And I'm like,

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judging is what the ego does. The ego is just gonna do it. The

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battle isn't about or the work isn't around. You know, stop

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judging, because the likelihood of that happening is probably

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not very high, but what we can do is get way better at

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recognizing that we are in the process of judging, or that we

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have judged, and then to stop and pause and recognize, oh, Oh,

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I often say to myself, Okay. Judge Judy,

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okay. Judge Judy, what do you have your own fucking TV show?

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Why don't you just relax over there a minute. Why don't you

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get curious? Why don't you like, like, stop your role, like, just

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slow your roll, put a comma in your commentary there Judge Judy

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and pause because you don't know all the facts. And I am showing

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this like, I am shown this like, S, T, o, t, J, spiritual team on

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the job. I am shown this again and again and again. You would

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think. You would think it would get through my thick head. You

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would think that this would just be so like, seared into my brain

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right now. And literally, I feel like this is how, like, Jesus

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walked the world like he did not show up in judgment. He showed

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up with love, he showed up with curiosity. He saw his brothers

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and sisters as himself, that we're all just walking around in

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fear. We're all walking around feeling separate. We're all

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walking around feeling like on some level, I have no idea like

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what I'm doing, but we don't want to appear that way, so we

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put on ads, or we pretend, or we blow ourselves up, as you know,

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and this is what the ego does. The egos main racket is it loves

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to keep you separate. It loves to keep you special. It will

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keep you special in your superiority, your perceived

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superiority, right, your pretend superiority. But it will also

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try to keep you separate and special with your shittiness,

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with your victimization and how bad you have it, right? The ego

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is just always running a game. It's always running a racket on

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us. And if we don't have some practices, some tools to be able

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to put a comma in our commentary, to slow down, to

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pause, to recognize, oh yeah, like I'm running that judgment

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racket. I need to stop and I need to. Get a little more

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curious and a little more caring and a little more compassionate,

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you know what I mean. And I was reminded of this too. I met some

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people. So as I was saying, I was invited to do a workshop at

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St Anselm's College in Manchester by my friend, the

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brilliant Dr Loretta Brady. And she was doing, it was like a

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five day artist residency, and it was about ludographic

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medicine. It was called ludographic medicine, healing

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stories. And what these artists and peoples and creatives were

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coming together to do was to create like a game, and the game

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was all around, like trauma stories and healing, trauma and

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healing through writing and the guest, the guest resident,

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artist la flesh, she had written or was working on a graphic a

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full length graphic memoir. So think of it like a memoir, but

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through like panels, like in a comic book, it's fascinating.

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And they created a game, and I think they called, ended up

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calling it like the come come back kids story, The Comeback

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Kid game. And it was really fascinating. So I was invited to

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come to do a workshop, and we called it preparing, preparing

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your bodies and brains. And it was like yoga and writing with

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trauma. And it was like, how do we prepare ourselves when we

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know that we're going to have to do some work, work that might

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hurt to do, right? And whether that's revisiting your trauma,

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writing about your trauma, whatever, but it's work that

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might hurt to do, but ultimately heals. And it was so fantastic,

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and it was such it was such an honor to do this. It was such a

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beautiful group of humans that I got to interact with and and

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share with and learn from and teach. And during this workshop,

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I got to meet a guy named MAV. And MAV used to be a prison God,

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and I thought this was so fascinating. And he said

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something that just like, really, really like, caught my

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attention because I was talking about how it's so easy for us to

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judge people right, because they had just come and this came up

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in conversation, because these people had just come from a

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visit to from the YDC, the youth detention center in Manchester,

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and the YDC is going through this major, like, reform

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overhaul, because, like, I don't even know it's like over 1000

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kids now adults, right? It might even be closer to 1300 or 1500

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people have come forward and have filed complaints against

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their time in y DC and all of the abuse, and all of the sexual

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abuse, the emotional abuse, the mental and physical abuse that

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happened to them while they were in the YDC. And it's just

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horrifying when you think about it. You know, when he goes,

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Joe's goes to prove my point. You know, you might be talking

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to somebody, and they might be struggling. You might be over

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there judging them, and you have no idea what these people have

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survived. You have no idea who these people are, what their

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start in life was, and what they have been through and what they

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have survived. And so MAV was one of the people who was part

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of this group, and he used to be a prison God, and we were

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talking about how I said, you know, I said, nobody wants to be

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judged for the worst mistake that they've ever made in their

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life. And this is something that we do with the incarcerated

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people with with people who have made poor choices, and a lot of

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times, I'm like, you know, who ends up in prison, people who

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have trauma, people who were not given the opportunity to learn

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differently, people who did not have good role models or mentors

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or coaches, people who grew up Often in poverty or in

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situations. I'm not saying everybody in prison, you know.

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I'm just saying but a lot of people who end up in prison, our

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kids who had trauma, who had no support, who had no guidance,

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who had no tools, were not taught any differently, you

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know? And when you think about why DC, think about nine year

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old kids being put in a prison like environment when there's

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there's cells, nine year olds, 11 year olds, 12 year olds, 13

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year olds. Think about what that does to a child and their

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development. Right? So MAV and I were talking, and he said

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something that struck me so deeply. And he said, a lot of

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prison gods, they like to read the files of the people that

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they're like, you know, gutting. They like to know their

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background. They want to know all the stuff. And he says, I

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don't read their files. He says, I don't want to know what

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they're in there for, because I don't want to meet them with my

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judgment. Man, when he said that, I was just like, it was

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just so powerful. He's like, I want to go and talk to them and

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meet them like face to face, and get to know them, get to know

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who they are. And this is what I started thinking about, is get.

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To know who people are, not what they've been or what they've

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done in their past, like meeting people right there, and he says,

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I don't want to judge them. And I just thought, he's like, based

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on what they've done. I just thought, Oh, my God, can you

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imagine if we all kind of move through the world this way? And

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the thing is, is that we are all born, and we have this ego. And

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the ego, again, its main job is to judge, and it loves to based

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on only what its eyes like, literally, the physical eyes

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see. And the thing about the human eyes is, and I've

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mentioned this before in other episodes, is that human eyes

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don't really see. Human eyes are just the little cameras, I think

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about that record that take the information in it sends the

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information up to the brain. It's the brain that interprets

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what it's seeing. It's the brain that is going into that

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judgment, right? And again, the brain likes to categorize

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things. It likes to save time. It likes to be efficient. So it

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likes to label and keep things as familiar, and kind of group

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things together and to judge things based on past

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experiences. So it's like, if somebody gets bitten by a dog,

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any dog that it meets going forward, unless we introduce

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some sort of pattern interrupt or some new way of thinking

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about a thing, right? It's going to perceive all dogs as

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dangerous. And we can do this with other groups of humans. We

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might label, oh, this person looks different than me. They

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must be fill in the blank. There's our judgment, whatever

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we judge it with and if we don't have a pattern interrupt, we

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just so much of the work that I do with people, right is to

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interrupt our own patterns of conditioning and the stories

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that we tell and the beliefs that we have. You know, we have

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to be vigilant, vigilant about what's going on in our minds,

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okay, but the ego doesn't like to kind of do much work beyond

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what it only sees. It doesn't like to go, you know, beyond

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that. And you know, I've shared this quote before. It's a very

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kind of A Course in Miracles thought. It also gets attributed

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to like John overdurf, who says, you know, a person can only be

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as good in your presence as they first are in your mind, and if

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in our mind, all we're doing is walking around and judging

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people, of course, we're going to have these experiences where

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in our presence, we cannot actually even see who's in front

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of us. We can't see them who they really are. Is one of God's

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kids as just like us, as one of our brothers and sisters. We're

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going to show up with our labels. We're going to show up

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with our stuff. And you know, that is one of the fastest ways

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that we keep ourselves stuck in that kind of separation, which

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just leads to suffering, and our judgment leads to suffering. And

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I want to be really clear about this,

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about the ego, mind in judgment, and I'm just going to read a

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little something from A Course in Miracles, because I'll never

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forget when I first read this, how it kind of like it was

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literally like, I feel like one of the greatest things A Course

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in Miracles has done for me is, if you imagine A house and this

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house, the doors and the windows have been sealed, and they're

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never open, so no sunlight comes in, no fresh breeze comes in,

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nothing new. It's like, it's like, stuffy. It's like, you

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know, it's not moldy, but it's just like, it's not a good

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environment in there. And it's like, all of a sudden, A Course

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in Miracles for me, in my mind in my brain, right? The way that

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my my thought system worked, it like blew open, it like opened

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all the windows and all the doors and all of a sudden, all

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this freshness, these fresh ideas, this like, oh, like,

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there's more. There's more to than just what my little ego

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perceives, right? And so. And of course, in Miracles is this

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phrase, like teachers of God. Teachers of God can be anybody.

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It's like all humans can be teachers of God. It's not about

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being special. So, and if you don't, I always say, if the word

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God upsets you, insert your own happy word there, right?

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Universe, love, higher power, whatever. Don't get hung up on

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the word. But it says this. It is necessary for the teacher of

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God to realize not that he should not judge, but that he

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cannot. When I first read that, I was like, what is that mean?

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Right? And here's, I'm going to, I'm going to, I'm going to go,

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I'm going to tell you why we actually cannot judge. We

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fucking love to judge. We love to judge, and then we feel

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guilty when we do judge, because we think, Oh, my God, I

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shouldn't be judging. But it's not that we shouldn't be, it's

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that we actually cannot judge, and I'm going to tell you why in

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a moment. All right, so stay with me when we. Judge

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ourselves, people situations otherwise, from our very limited

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POV, from our very limited personal experience and personal

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knowledge, what that does is it basically, it basically involves

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a certain amount of arrogance that we believe that we know how

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it should be, what should be done, how they should be acting.

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We believe that we know what's best when, in reality, right? We

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do not have the capacity to know all of everybody like, why it's

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going down, how it's going down, all the multiple aspects of a

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thing, right? What might be influencing a certain person to

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be that way? What their history is, what their story is, what's

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gone on, what's going to go on, what's about to go on, right? We

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do not have that kind of omnipotent vision. Okay? So A

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Course in Miracles says it is necessary for the teacher of God

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to realize not that he should not judge, but that he cannot.

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And then it goes on to say this, in order to judge anything

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rightly, one would have to be fully aware of an inconceivably

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wide range of things past, present and to come, one would

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have to recognize in advance all the effects of His judgments on

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everyone and everything involved in them in any way, and one

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would have to be certain that there is no distortion in his

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perception, so that his judgment would be wholly fair to everyone

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on whom It rests now, and on whom it's going to rest in the

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future. So who is in a position to do this, who's in a position

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to do this, who, except in grandiose fantasies, would claim

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this for himself, that, and I think of this like right who

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would claim for himself that they have omnipotent vision,

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that they know exactly why everything's happening and

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exactly what that one should be doing and that one should be

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doing and that one shouldn't be doing that or should be doing

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this. Who can claim that they know of all time and space,

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exactly why everything is going down, and hence they can, from

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their god seeded place in the world, be able to cast judgment.

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Who would do that, except somebody who is completely

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fcking delusional, and when you think about it like that, I

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cannot help but laugh, because this is kind of what we're doing

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when we go into judgment. We are judging everybody and everything

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based on our very, very, very tiny, teeny, tiny, weeny point

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of view, our little limited scope of perception and

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perspective. And yet we think we know. And the thing is, is I am

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taught again and again and again, that I know jack shit,

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that there are people walking all around me in every single

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moment when I'm out in the world, people that I'm

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interacting with online, on social media, whatever. And it's

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so easy to cast our judgment. It's so easy to be cruel. It's

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so easy to be lacking compassion and care and to show up with our

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sarcasm and our cutting comments and our judgments. And you

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should do this, and you should do that, and why are you doing

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that? And we don't know anything. And what a different

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world we would live in if we would all just reserve our

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judgment. Reserve our judgment for when maybe we have a little

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bit more information, and even then, I would hesitate to judge.

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You know, in The Great Gatsby, there's a line by one of the

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characters Nick, and Nick basically says reserving

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judgment is a matter of infinite hope. Reserving judgment is a

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matter of infinite hope. To me, when we reserve judgment, so

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much more becomes possible, because as soon as you judge,

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you literally close down the windows and the doors of

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opportunity, they just they slam shut because you are not going

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to be able to see past your judgment. You have basically cut

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yourself off from your curiosity, from your compassion,

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from your desire to know more and understand more and to

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really learn about another human being. Being or a situation, you

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know? And I want to say this we do as human beings, because I

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know somebody somewhere out there is saying like, so what?

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We're just supposed to walk around and not judge anything

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like so we just let everybody do whatever they want to do. No, of

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course not. We have to have certain perimeters in place,

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right? This is why we have rules. This is why we have laws.

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Because we don't want just total chaos and madness out there. We

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do need to, need to set some things in place, like, hey, to

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go into another person's house and take their shit, like,

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that's not okay, right? This is why we have laws, right? Hey,

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you cannot X, Y and Z. This is why we have rules. And even that

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can get a little little, you know, sketchy when we kind of

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look at the Supreme Court right now and all the all the bullshit

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that's like going down in the world and whatever, because

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everybody thinks that they're right, and everybody don't get

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me started. Okay, let me stay let me and we're back. Let me

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stay on track here. Okay, of course, we have to have what I

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prefer to call personal discernment. So I get to discern

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whether or not a person, a program, a place, a

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relationship, a product, is right for me. I don't get to

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judge whether it's right for you, right, like, look as a

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vegan, like, I always say it's the easiest example I get to

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decide what I do or do not want to participate in. I really try

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my best not to judge people who make different decisions. I do.

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Like to educate people that there are different ways of

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being in the world that does not inflict harm and cruelty and

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rape and abuse and murder against our poor little animal

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friends who don't have a voice and don't have a say and are at

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the mercy of our compassion and kindness, right? But walking

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around in contempt of other human beings is not how things

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change. Walking around, judging other people, is not how things

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get done, right? We have to stay open, we have to stay curious,

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we have to do our best to try to understand, right? But we do get

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to have a certain amount of personal discernment, where we

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discern, yes, I'm not going to do that, but if that's your

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thing, that's your thing, right? Where we do get to speak up is

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when somebody is maybe doing something against a person or

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people or animals who have no power, and whether that's

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because they're children or they're disenfranchised, or they

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don't have a voice, or whatever it is, then those of us right,

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do get to, to show up and say, I don't think that that's right,

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and we need to intervene here, or whatever.

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I think we have to use our personal discernment, but we

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also have to be careful when that discernment starts to move

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into I'm rightness right, that righteousness like I'm right.

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This is how it's supposed to be. This is how it has to be, you

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know. And there's that old, that old fable about, you know, the

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farmer who's like, son, you know, falls off the horse or

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whatever, and breaks his leg. And, you know, the neighbors are

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like, Oh, that's too bad. And the farmer says, maybe it is.

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Maybe it isn't. And then the army shows up, looking for young

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sons, you know, young men to, like, draft into the war, and

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the son can't go because he's got a broken leg. And then the

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neighbors are like, What good fortune. And then the, you know,

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the Fauci, is like, maybe it is, maybe it isn't like the story

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continues on with all these examples. The fact of the matter

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is, we are not God. We are not omnipotent. We are not all

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seeing and all knowing. We don't know. But what if we showed up

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with curiosity instead of leading with our judgment, our

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judgment towards ourselves, our judgment towards others? How

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radical would it be to move through the world. How different

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would it feel in your body? You know, one of the fastest ways I

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know so many people who are so afraid of being judged, and I

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always say, you know, one of the ways that we can help lift that

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burden of fear of being judged is to do our best to stop

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judging others. Again. Don't beat yourself up for it when you

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do it. Don't make yourself guilty and wrong and bad and

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sinful and blah, blah, blah, but just catch yourself. Move from a

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mindless state where you're just kind of automated and doing all

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this shit to becoming more mindful, to slowing down. This

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is why a DSP, a daily spiritual practice can be so powerful

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because it helps us to kind of create a pause so that we can

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choose, we can slow down, and we can see ourselves. We have more

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personal awareness, right? And Swami Kripalu, you know ba buji,

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so if you've ever been to the Kripalu. Lucenta out in the

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Berkshires in Western Massachusetts. You know, I was

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trained and I lived at Kripalu, and I was trained there as a

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yoga teacher a gazillion years ago. You know, we lived there

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for a month, and every day in the hallways, I would walk past

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these pictures of Swami Kripalu, who we call lovingly, Bapuji,

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you know, kind of like grandfather. And whenever I

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would see this one particular picture of Swami Kripalu, I

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would always stop, and I would get, like, teary eyed, like,

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there's just, there was just something that transcended time

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and space. I mean, he died, I think back in, like, I want to

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say 1981 or 82 or 83 somewhere in there. So I never got to

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personally meet him, but there was something, and the word

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Kripalu actually means compassion. And so there was

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something about looking at his face. And so in the hallways,

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there are these pictures, and they have these quotes. And one

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of the things that Swami Kripalu said, or it's attributed to him,

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he says, the highest form of spiritual practice there is, is

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self observation without judgment, to observe, without

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casting our judgment, to observe ourselves to be curious about

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ourselves. Right to wonder. And this is so much of the work that

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I do. Why do we do what we do? Think, what we think, believe,

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what we believe, say, what we say, show how. Why do we show up

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the way we show up, right? Why do we tell the stories that we

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tell? And how can we maybe tell better ones? How can we come to

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really understand ourselves? Because if you don't know,

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again, right to exist in ignorance. I always say, like,

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you know, confusion is even better than ignorance, and

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there's no higher form of ignorance than contempt, prior

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to investigation, to thinking that you know how a thing is,

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and to turn your nose up at it, to cast judgment on it when you

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haven't even asked, well, what's really going on here? What's

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going on under? The under. And this is why so many of us cast

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judgment on ourselves. We have a lack of self esteem, a lack of

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self love, because we have so much self judgment, like I

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should be over this by now, and why I thought I already dealt

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with this, and why haven't I figured this out? And why am I

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this way? What am I just fucked up or broken, or I'm a mess, or

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whatever? And it's like, no, just, I always say, and I'm

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doing a whole episode on this, you know, we are not really, we

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are not really taught how to know ourselves and understand

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ourselves, and we certainly, certainly not taught how to love

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ourselves. And so much of this work that I love to do, first

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and foremost with myself and also with others, is to learn

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how to kind of come home to the truth of ourselves. And as long

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as we are judging ourselves and each other, love cannot happen

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in that state. We need more curiosity. We need more care. We

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need more compassion, you know, and so as I think about my

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friends who are navigating really difficult things, when I

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think about whole communities and whole groups of people who

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are navigating really difficult times right now, people just

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behoove us all to show up with a little more kindness and

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compassion and curiosity and softness and mercy and

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tenderness. I'm not saying don't be fierce when fierceness is

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called for. I'm not saying that we walk around like big, squishy

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marshmallows, right? I mean, right now we are in times when

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we need to, kind of like, find that Sanctum Sanctorum, we need

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to find some strength. We need to find this inner kind of

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resiliency. And we can also do that, though, while reserving

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our judgment and making assumptions about others,

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because, again, most people aren't walking around with a

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billboard that is broadcasting their inner pain and their fear

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and their suffering. You know what I mean. So as you move

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through you know, maybe this is just another gentle reminder. I

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don't think we can hear this enough. We don't know as much as

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we think we know. You know we need to realize not that we

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shouldn't judge, but that we cannot, because we don't know

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all things past, present and future we can't possibly know.

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And who's in a position to do this, who, except in the

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grandiose fantasies, would claim that they know what's best for

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everybody? We can't do it. So you know, maybe it will help

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you. And one of the ways, and this is just a little tip, take

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it or leave it, I use humor a lot. I use humor a lot towards

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myself, like the things that I say to myself, right, even when

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I'm kind of wagging my finger at myself a little bit. It, they

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make me laugh. And I'm like, oh, okay, Judge Judy, I start to

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laugh because even laughter, it's a pattern interrupt, right?

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It stops me from being too mean or too harsh for myself when I

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catch myself doing exactly what the ego loves to do. And I'm not

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trying to fight the ego. I'm just trying to accept how

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ridiculous the ego is. And if I can look at my ego and those

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behaviors we talk about in A Course in Miracles, is kind of

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looking at it with with Holy Spirit, I kind of just like, put

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on my love glasses, and I look at it through this lens of like,

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Oh, look at that. Ego's doing its thing again, right? I don't

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have to contempt, condemn myself, make myself bad. It's

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like, okay, Judge Judy has stepped forward. Forward, hit

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the gavel, the gavel, and take a lunch break, right? It's kind of

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funny, so I use humor to kind of break myself out of the habit,

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or the pattern of judging myself too when I slip up, because

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we're all going to slip up. It's just human it's just human

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nature, right? Human nature? You're going to look at somebody

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and be like, Why are they wearing that? And you're like,

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Oh my God. Like, where does that voice come from? Like, what?

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Like, what? Who do they think they are?

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Like, that ongoing chatter.

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And it's really just the voice of fear, you

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guys. It's the voice of fear that is the ego, but we have

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within us also, whether you call it Holy Spirit, spirit, the

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inner, inner teacher, the voice for love, the voice for God,

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whatever you want to say, the reminder of God's love, right?

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That is also in there. And we have a decision maker, and the

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decision maker can choose whether we're going to choose

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the ego, voice for fear of judgment, attack, blame, shame,

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or the voice for love and care and compassion and recognizing,

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oh, they're also me. We're in this together. They're no

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different than me. I hope this lands in your heart in some way,

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or I hope it's helpful in some way. And if you found it

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helpful, I would love if you share with somebody else who

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might also find it helpful. That would be fantastic. And you

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know, these are the kinds of things too. Like, I'm always

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inviting you guys into the NASS, my little spiritual group

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program, my little mentoring community. It's such a community

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of beautiful human beings, and these are the kind of things

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that we talk about and contemplate. You know, it's

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about more deeply understanding ourselves and how we move

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through the world and how we can show up more in love instead of

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our fear. You know how we can show up and use these practical

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tools of neuroscience and spirituality, and you know these

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pattern interrupts and rewiring the subconscious so that we

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actually show up as who we are meant to be, which is love. So

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you're going through a tough time right now, if you're

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struggling, if you're suffering in some way, just know that you

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are not alone. My heart goes out to you and that you know this is

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how we're going to get through it. We're all going to get

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through it together, and it's okay, like I said, use your

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personal discernment. Do I want to wear the red shirt or the

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blue shirt? Should I eat that food? Of that food? Personal

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discernment, right? We need to. We need that to navigate life.

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You know, sometimes we have to make a judgment call, as they

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say, to do it or not do it. But we want to reserve our judgment.

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You know, when it comes to walking around thinking we know

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everything, and judging other human beings and sometimes

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judging ourselves, because sometimes we were doing the best

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we could with what we had at the time. You know what I mean?

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Sometimes, sometimes the ego is just really being strong. You

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know, the ego voice we say, speaks first. It speaks loudest.

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And I always add and it's always wrong. So we want to be

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listening for that voice of love. Remember the highest form

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of spiritual practice is self observation without judgment. So

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let's, let's quiet those judge duties. Reserve our judgment and

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just know you guys. I super duper appreciate you. Thank you

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for tuning in. Wherever you go, may you leave yourself in the

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animals and the people and the planet and the environment

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better than how you found it wherever you go, may you and

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your presence and your energy and your love and your lack of

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hash judgment be a blessing. Bye, you.

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The Karen Kenney Show
Karen Kenney is a certified Spiritual Mentor, Writer, Integrative Change Worker, Coach and Hypnotist. She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-BS, down-to-earth approach to Spirituality and transformational work.

KK is a wicked curious human being, a life-long learner, and has been an entrepreneur for over 20 years! She’s also been a yoga teacher for 25 years, is a Certified Gateless Writing Instructor, and an author, speaker, retreat leader, and the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast!

She coaches both the conscious + unconscious mind using practical Neuroscience, Subconscious Reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis/Change Work, and Spiritual Mentorship.

These tools help clients to regulate their nervous systems, remove patterns, rewrite old stories, rewire in new beliefs, and reimagine what’s possible in their lives and business!

Karen encourages people to deepen their connection to Self, Source and Spirit in down-to-earth and actionable ways and wants them to have their own lived experience with spirituality and to not just “take her word for it”.

She helps people to shift their minds from fear to Love - using compassion, storytelling and humor. Her work is effective, efficient, memorable, and fun!

KK’s been a student of A Course in Miracles for close to 30 years, has been vegan for over 20 years, and believes that a little kindness can make a big difference.

KK WEBSITE: www.karenkenney.com

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Karen Kenney

Karen Kenney (KK) is a certified Spiritual Mentor, Writer, Hypnotist, Speaker, Change Worker and Coach. She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent and her no-BS approach to Spirituality and transformational work.

She’s the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast, plus she's been a yoga teacher for 24+ years, and is a Certified Gateless Writing Instructor.

A curious human being, life-long learner and an entrepreneur for 20+ years, KK brings a down-to-earth perspective to applying practical spiritual principles and brain science that create powerful shifts in people’s lives and businesses.

She works with people in her 1:1 program THE QUEST, and offers a collective learning experience via her online workshops and her in-person transformational retreats. She supports and shifts both the conscious and unconscious mind by combining practical tools from Neuroscience, Subconscious Reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis, and Spiritual Mentorship - which help clients regulate their nervous systems, remove habituated blocks, rewrite old stories, rewire new beliefs, and reimagine what’s possible!

KK wants her clients to have their own lived experience with spirituality and to not just “take her word for it”. She encourages people to deepen their personal connection to Self, Source and Spirit in tangible, relatable, and actionable ways without losing sight of the magic!

Her process called: “Your Story To Your Glory” helps people to shift from an old thought system of fear to one of Love - using compassion, un-shaming, laughter and humor - her work is effective, efficient, and it’s also wicked fun!

KK’s been a student of A Course in Miracles for close to 30 years, has been vegan for over 20 years, and believes that a little kindness can make a big difference.

You can learn more & connect with KK at: www.karenkenney.com