Stop Apologizing For Crying
One of the things I’ve seen time and time and time again, and you can “Double Amen Hands” me if you have witnessed this yourself or have done this yourself, too - is that when somebody starts to cry in public or in front of others, almost always, there's a moment where they say, “I'm sorry.”
When this happens (or when I’ve done it in the past) I often think to myself, what am I or what are they so sorry about and who the heck are we apologizing to?
It's like we're a little embarrassed about crying in the company of other people and feel as though we need to apologize; as if to say “I'm so sorry that I'm inconveniencing you by being human and having emotions.”
Why do we feel so weird or bad or embarrassed about crying?
It's not like we're imposing on anybody. It's usually just a sign that we are moved, or that we are moving emotion and feelings in or through our body. Personally, I love being moved by something; whether it's a piece of music I'm listening to or something I'm reading, a movie I'm watching or a video that I see where somebody is being kind, reuniting or rescuing an animal.
Of course, tears happen for a variety of reasons (and did you know that there are three kinds of tears?) but the one commonality they seem to share is that in our culture, crying is often seen as a weakness or something to hide or be ashamed of.
So, today on The Karen Kenney show, I wanted to share this little love letter from my heart to yours just to say, it’s OK to cry and feel your feelings and to let the healing happen. And the next time we find ourselves welling up around others, maybe we can choose to stop apologizing for our tears.
KK's Takeaways:
• Truth With A Capital “T” (3:55)
• Who Are We Apologizing To? (7:58)
• When Was The Last Time You Cried? (12:10)
• Sucked It Up & Stuffed It Down (16:15)
• Some People Call It Resilience (21:48)
• That Was All An Act (28:51)
• I Cry Every Day (33:35)
• Being Mindful (38:29)
• Feel Your Feelings (46:33)
Karen Kenney is a certified Spiritual Mentor, writer, author, speaker, and the host of The Karen Kenney Show Podcast. She’s also the founder of THE NEST - an online spiritual membership & community.
She’s been a student & guide of A Course in Miracles for close to three decades, a certified yoga teacher for 20+ years and is a longtime practitioner of Passage Meditation. She’s also a Gateless Writing Instructor, workshop facilitator and transformational retreat leader.
KK grew up in Lawrence & Boston, MA, and graduated from Boston University with a degree in Communications. She’s known for her storytelling, her sense of humor and her “down-to-earth”, no BS approach to Spirituality.
She helps people to rewrite their old stories, shift their perception from fear to Love, and deepen their connection to Self, Source & Spirit. Using her signature process - Your Story to Your Glory™ - people learn how to transform themselves and their lives from the inside out, so they can feel empowered, play a proactive part in their own healing, and experience more fun, flow, and freedom!
A sought-after speaker, spiritual teacher, and thought leader for podcasts, shows, live events, group retreats and entrepreneurial mastermind programs, Karen has been invited to speak & teach on various platforms, stages & retreat centers across the country, including the renowned Omega Institute for Holistic Studies.
You can learn more & connect with KK at: www.karenkenney.com
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