STOP HALF-ASSING IT

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It's the Karen Kenney show. Hey, you guys!

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Welcome to the Karen Kenney Show. I hope you're doing super

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duper. I got to tell you, I'm feeling pretty good. I'm fresh

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out of the shower, and fresh out of the shower, my hair's still

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drying, and I'm feeling a little fresh. I'm feeling a little

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sassy, a little sassy in the mouth right now. So I'm just

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gonna dive into this sucker. You, you, you may have heard me

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kind of talk about this topic before. It's definitely

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something. Oh my god, this is just something that drives me a

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little bit crazy about humans, and I don't want this all to be

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like just an episode on on my pet peeves. Really, I just want

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to use this as awareness. And remember, everything I say is

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from my ears first. You know, everything I say is from my ears

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too. So I'm not picking on anybody too much, but I am going

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to tell you a little story where it might feel like I'm picking

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on somebody, I'm just kind of using them as an example, but

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this is just something that kind of grinds my gears, as they say.

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So I think I'm just going to call this sucker. Like, stop

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half-assing it. Just stop half-assing it. Stop half-assing

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what, KK? You might say, stop half-assing your life. Stop

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half-assing your work. Stop half-assing your relationships.

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Stop half-assing your art. Like whatever you're doing, whatever

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you're doing. I really do feel like look. If it's worth doing,

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it's worth doing well. You know what I mean, and I get it. I get

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it that there might be some little instances where you're

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like, I was just throwing together a quick meal. I kind of

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half-assed the meal. I just threw some lettuce in a bowl

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with the whatever. That like use your common sense, right? Use

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your common sense here. There's always exceptions to the rule.

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There's always nuances, etc. But let's just kind of get into this

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whole half-assing it because I remember being a kid and my

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stepfather always, always telling us, right? You know,

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don't half-ass shit. If you're gonna do it, do it right. That

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was the big. If you're gonna do it, do it right. So it kind of,

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it kind of like yeah, got programmed into me, kind of got

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drilled into me, but it is a quality, right? I mean, there's

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a lot of things. There's a lot of things my stepfather did not

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fucking get right, but that was one of them. You know, teaching

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us, teaching us to be not afraid of a little hard work, and

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putting some care and attention into what we're doing, because

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it's not necessarily about the thing, the the the half-assing

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it isn't just about the thing you're doing, whether that's you

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know writing something or cleaning something or creating

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making something, whatever, right? It says something about

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you, so that part's important, and we'll come back to it. But

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that phrase "half-assing it, you know, it sounds like it would be

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kind of a current phrase. It would be a word that didn't

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exist until maybe like the 60s, the 70s, whatever. But this

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sucker has been around. I found examples of as far back as like

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1863, 1863, Somebody wrote the word half-assing it, and they

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were using it to describe a general during a time of war.

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And some of the people say didn't come on the scene until

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like 1932. But when you look it up in the dictionary, there's

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all kinds of different ways that it gets described. And I listen,

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you guys. When I run down these words, when I run down these

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words, I want you to like fine tune, fine tune your ears,

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because I don't think any of us ever want to be referred to in

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this way. I don't think any of us ever want to be called or

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associated with the words I'm about to say. So half ass

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meaning mediocre. Oh my God! Who wants to be mediocre? There

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might be some things where you're like, yeah, I'm a

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mediocre bola, and you're like, fine. But we're talking about if

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things matter, like important things, mediocre, insignificant,

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inadequate, ineffective, incompetent, incompetent. not

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serious, right? I was just like, oh my god, like I don't want to

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be described in any of those ways, and hopefully you don't

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either.

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Now I know sometimes it's funny that word, like, hey, he's like

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half-assed, and I half-ass the job, right? Nobody wants

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half-assing. Everybody wants. Somebody once said to me, "Does

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that mean people want full-assing? Like I don't know.

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Maybe there's a better way to say that. But last little

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etymology thing I'll tell you is that somebody once said that the

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word half-assing it could have been a humorous mispronunciation

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of the word half. Right, you can see how it might. If you think,

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look at the spelling and the way that it is said, like haphazard,

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you can see how it might be like half-assing. You know what I

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mean? But here's the thing: this is why it's been on my mind and

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on my heart. So I was recently, a friend of mine was out of

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town, and I was watching their business for them. I was kind of

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like you know, quote unquote. We'll call it quote unquote

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manning the desk, right? Like I was representing. I was holding

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down the fort, as I like to say. I was holding down the fort in

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their absence, and while I was there, like you know, different

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people were coming in for like different things, and this one

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service worker came in, and they were in the building and doing

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they were let's just put it this way they're a window washer

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that's what I'm comfortable saying they were a window washer

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and the guy comes in and he's in the window and he's got his

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little bucket and he's got his squeegees and he's got his he's

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got his little towel and stuff like that right the water the

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cleanser whatever you know what else he had, though, you guys?

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You know what else he had? He had a shitty attitude. That's

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what he had. His his dissatisfaction, whether it was

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with the day. I mean, it was a gorgeous day out. It was wicked

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sunny. I don't know. I could have a problem with the weather.

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Whatever that was going on, that was not a happy man. That was

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not a happy person. And this dude came in, and he's in. He's

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cleaning the window, and I'm like looking at the setup, and

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I'm immediately clocking like three ways where this can go

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wrong. I'm like, he could step on this, trip on this. So I say

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to him, "Would you like me to move that for you? Yeah, yeah.

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If you could, yeah. If you could, that that you know, yeah,

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that'd be good. Not yes. Thank you. Appreciate it. Like

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nothing. Just like attitude, you know. And I was like, wow, this

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is so not soothing. And like, let me say this. Let me say

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this. If you're somebody that's going to come to my house and

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work on anything, whether you're pumping my septic, fixing the

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sink, changing the filters on the water filtration system,

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cleaning the frigging fireplace, whatever's happening, I'm

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usually right there watching and asking a bunch of questions.

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Now, I'm not saying that's not annoying to the practitioner,

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but I really do it out of genuine curiosity. I am

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fascinated by people who do jobs that I don't do. I'm fascinated

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by people who have knowledge that I don't have, and I like to

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learn new things. And I like to find out about the people who

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are doing the work. Right. So hopefully, I don't get in

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people's way. I try not to get in their way. I try not to be a

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pain in the ass. And I always say to them, if I'm bugging you,

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just tell me to scram, beat it, you know. But I usually like to

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hang around and like clog, like watch what people are doing,

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because I'm fascinated by things and people and life in general.

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So I'm watching this guy like clean the windows, and I'm just

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thinking to myself, like really, like really, dude. And he's

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dripping water on the floor, and the pots that he sees, he wipes

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out, but he leaves a bunch of other shit behind. And just like

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across the board, shitty attitude, sub par, half-assing

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at work, and I was just not impressed.

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And you know, through our conversation, because I engaged

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him a couple of times to try and like, you know, I was trying to

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be not only friendly but say, hey, is anything else I can do

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to make this easier for you, whatever? Because I could tell

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he was having a bad day, and I was like, I don't know if this

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is a permanent state of mind, I don't know if this is a

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personality flaw. I don't know what this guy's deal is, but I I

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try not to judge people on one interaction because here's the

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thing. You know what I can a bad attitude because I don't know

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his life story. I don't know what he's going through.

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Whatever that day, I can usually forgive that. I'm like, yeah,

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person's having a bad day. Chalk it up to a bad day. That's one

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thing. Your tone of voice, your energy level might be low. You

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don't make eye contact. All that stuff I can handle. But when

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somebody is paying you, and look, unless you're a wicked

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Richie Richie like Richie Rich, you know, remember that cartoon

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Richie Rich? Unless you're like a super duper richy rich these

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days. Every penny counts. It's hot out there right now. It's

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hot out there. Gas is like 14, 418 a fucking gallon at the

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pump. Groceries are like so expensive. Everything is going

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up except people's you know wages. You know what I'm saying?

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The expenses are expensing, but the income is not growing. The

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income is kind of staying the same for a lot of people. It's

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rough out there, and so you know. In by and large, a lot of

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my friends and people that I know, they're wicked hard

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workers. So if somebody is going to be paying you, they're not

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just paying you to half ask. The gig, you know what I'm saying?

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We we should be able to expect a certain level of effort, a

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certain level of care, especially when you're done that

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job. You're gonna turn around and you're gonna hand me an

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invoice that you expect to be paid. Well, I'm looking at the

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windows and I'm like, I literally had to stop myself.

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Number one, I'm like, this isn't my business, so I don't want to

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sour this relationship between the the business owner and and

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the person. But at the same time, I'm watching and I'm

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looking up, and these top windows had not been done in a

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while, and and because I was like somebody was there, like

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not he wasn't just doing the outside. He was able to come in

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and do the windows. I was so excited. I'm like, oh, he's

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finally because I knew that the windows hadn't been done. I'm

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like, oh, he's gonna get the top thing. It's gonna be so great.

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And as he's finishing up, and as he's done, and as he's writing

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with his attitude, with his pen and his attitude, and he's

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writing down like something for me to put the invoices and give

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the thing to my friend who owns the business. I'm looking up,

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and all I can see through the windows, because the sunlight is

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coming in, is all these streaks, just like all these streaks. And

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there was a part of me that was just like, why is that okay for

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you? Like, why is that level of craftsmanship okay for you?

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Like, did you check your work? Did you look and see? Like,

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because, dude, you're letting whatever is going on inside of

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you right now affect externally the kind of work that you're

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doing, and the reason why it kind of pained me, on top of the

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level that, like, it was almost as if this person didn't give a

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shit, and we're gonna get into that. What that says personally

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sometimes, or how people can view that. What also bothered me

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about it is that there's no way that I would ever recommend that

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guy, and I thought to myself, if another business owner that I

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know needed like their windows cleaned or whatever, I now know

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this this business's name, and I would never ever ever ever ever

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recommend this person because I've seen their quality of work,

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I've seen their quality of care, I've experienced their attitude.

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Like I said, the attitude I can get it.

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Like we all have bad days, but I was like the fact that you're

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like, the fact that you're coming in here, and you're kind

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of making a mess, and you're kind of just like slamming

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things around, and you're not making an effort to do the best

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because if that's the best job that you could do, you should

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not be a window washer. That's all I'm gonna say, you know. And

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so here's the thing, I believe this. When half-assing it

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becomes okay with you, when your attitude becomes like, "Yeah,

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whatever, that's good enough. Granted, there will be times,

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right, when duct tape is the answer. There are gonna be, of

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course, certain situations where the half-ass is all you can do

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because you have a lack of resources, you have a lack of

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skill, a lack of time, whatever. You're just crossing your

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fingers and hoping the duct tape sticks till it gets you to the

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thing. You put the mini ha ha wheel on when the when the

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full-size tire breaks down and you don't have a backup tire,

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you put on the little one and you cross your fingers and you

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hope you can get to the gas station or back home safely or

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whatever. I get it. We don't all have the sometimes the luxury,

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right, or the resources to do it the way we would want to do it.

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It's a wing and a prayer. We recycle, we upcycle, we you know

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we repair what we have. I just sewed one of my sweetie shirts

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yesterday, right? I've sewed this thing like four times in

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the past, and we both love the shirt. And I'm like, all right,

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sweetie, I think we've come to the place where this is going to

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be the last time I repair this. After this, it's going to have

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to be recycled. You know, we're going to do something with it.

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But I get it, right? Sometimes with your resources, you got to

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do what you got to do. But what you don't have to do is a

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half-ass job with your craft, with the thing that you do for a

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living. Like, why be shitty at your job? Why not have like what

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I consider to have your own code? And we can look at having

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a code. I want to do a whole episode about having a code. I'm

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just going to briefly touch on it here, but we got to have our

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own code, which means don't we want our work to reflect our own

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level not only of care for the customer or the client, but also

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our own self respect, our own self integrity, right? Like I'm

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like, there are gonna be days. Let's say like you're you're

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working out, right? Like I'm I'm you know strength training, da

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da da da, three days a week, blah blah blah. The only person

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it hurts, right? If I half-ass my workout is me. That's. On me,

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that's a decision that I make, and I'm like, I don't have the,

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you know, I don't have the energy. I do not have the whoop

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ass in the can today. I'm feeling run down. I'm feeling

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tired, but I'm going to give it my best, right? Sometimes your

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best might not be good enough, but at least the effort is

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there. At least you cared enough to like do it. But when somebody

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is paying you with their hard-earned money, with their

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possibly limited resources, but they need your skill set. Why

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wouldn't you want to go above and beyond? Why wouldn't you?

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You know why most people don't do it because there's a lack of

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self-not just integrity, but there's a lack of

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Self-management. You have to be able to manage the moment. You

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have to be able to pull your shit together and be like, "I'm

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about to walk into this business right now. It doesn't matter

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that I had a, I don't know, a fight with my sweetie. Doesn't

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matter that I had a bad night's sleep. It doesn't matter that

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maybe you know I'm not feeling great, but whatever the thing

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is, right? And trust me, I get it, right? Sometimes people are

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sick. Some people sometimes people don't feel good, and they

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still have to go to their job because they got to make rent

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and put food on the table. I'm not saying that. I get it.

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We all have bad days, but if consistently your attitude is

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shitty, and consistently your quality of work is not up to

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par. If it's half-assed, then you might want to choose to go

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work somewhere else. I've known people who have maybe been in

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jobs or gigs or whatever where other people would be like,

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"That's the last gig that I would ever want. Whatever it is,

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I I don't want to even mention a particular job because I I just

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think if you're a hard worker and you're putting in the time

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and the effort and you're trying to get paid, God bless you, man.

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You know what I'm saying? But there are some things where

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people might be like, oh my God, they do that job. How could they

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be? I'm like, to me, when somebody is doing, especially

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like a blue collar job or a hard working job or whatever, a

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manual labor job, and they do it with a smile on their face. They

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do it with genuine curiosity and care for the people that they're

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serving and the work that they're doing. Oh my God, I have

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such deep respect for that. I have so much admiration and

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respect for that. And I-that's how I was raised. And I try to

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right a lot of again, as I said, a lot of things in my childhood

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didn't go well. But that had working attitude and giving a

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shit and doing your best and trying to show up to your best

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potential. And look, we all fall short sometimes. Every single

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one of us, because we're human. We're not robots. We're not

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perfect. We're not fucking little AI bots, right? We have

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feelings, we have moods, we have bodies. We like sometimes have

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diarrhea, sometimes we're crampy, sometimes we're

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exhausted, sometimes we're whatever, right? I get it. This

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being human is not easy, but what I'm saying is we should all

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have our own kind of code of conduct and what we're willing

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to do, and like meaning like the level of care that we want to

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show, and it bummed me out for that guy because I now I'm like

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I can't in good conscience and not that not like look it's not

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like everybody's running to me and asking me like do you have a

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guy who washes windows but if it were to ever come up there's no

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way in good faith I could recommend that person. I just

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wouldn't do it, and that's too bad, right? Because that's

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potential lost business. But more importantly, I was like,

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why don't you give a shit about what you're doing and what

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you're leaving behind? And you guys know, if you listen to this

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podcast, the thing I say at the end of every episode is

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Can we just leave each other? Can we leave

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the animals and the people and ourselves and the planet and the

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environment and the situation like better? Can the thing be

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better for you having been there? Can you leave things and

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people better? Because if you can't, like, what are you doing?

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Like, take a look at that. Do you know what I'm saying? And

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this is a call, like I said, for all of us, right? Because when

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you half-ass it and you start to normalize half-assing it in one

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area, it can have like a trickle effect, right? It can have that

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trickle effect. That little bit of poison can spread, and it

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starts to get easier to make excuses in other areas, you

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know. And also, the other thing I would say: this is another

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tricky, tricky thing to look out for. If you're willing to go

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above and beyond for everybody else in your work and other

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people, but you make yourself last and you do like a shitty,

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half-assed job for your own mental health or the quality of

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the food that you eat, or the rest that you're getting, like

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if like why, like why don't half ask yourself either, don't half

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ass your dreams, your life, your work, your art, your

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relationships. And I know it's hard, you guys. I know people

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were all exhausted, aren't we? Aren't we all just a. Little

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fucking tired right now, right? It's like I could turn on this

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mic. What episode is this? Like 383 or whatever. I've been doing

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this for like over seven years.

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It's like I could just be like, ah, fuck it. I'm just gonna dial

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it. I'm just gonna like phone it in. I'm just gonna half ass it.

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It's like no, and I don't even get paid for this. I lose money

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having a podcast for Christ's sakes, but if I'm gonna do

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something, I'm gonna really try to pour my hat into it, you

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know, because that's the key that I kind of want. It's like

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occurring to me as I'm saying it out loud. When you're

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half-assing it, another way to say that is to half-hat it.

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You're half hotting it, and I don't want half-hatted anything.

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Yeah, I made you this meal, but I half-hatted it. Yeah, I'm

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teaching this yoga class, but I'm gonna, I'm gonna half-ass

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it. I'm gonna half-hat it. It's like what I'm gonna I'm gonna

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hold right club, but can you imagine? Can you imagine like

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showing up, paying money to a workshop where the person just

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is like unprepared and they don't give a shit and they're

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just like whatever? Or imagine me doing like a Thai yoga

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massage where I'm just doing like sloppy work and I'm not

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paying attention and I don't give a shit about the quality of

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the experience-it's like, are you out of your mind? Oh my god!

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But look, a lot of people normalize this. We normalize the

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half-assing, and I don't want to do it. And I don't want you

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guys. I don't want my listeners to do that. I want you. This is

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like my desire for you. You know, I talked about this once

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before, where I said to somebody, I walked into their

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space, and you know, when we got talking about like what was

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going on, I said to them, like, why is this? Why have you made

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this quality like okay for yourself? Like, don't you want

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more for yourself? Don't you think you deserve more? This was

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not a mean thing I was saying. P.S. By the way, this was a a

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conversation we were you know both having. I wasn't being

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mean. I wasn't being fresh, and I was like, "Don't you want

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more? Because like I want more for you. And at the end of the

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day, though, here's the thing: you're you're you're a spiritual

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mentor, you're a coach, you're support team, you're whatever,

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right? You're we can't we can't want more for you than you do.

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You've got to also want it. You've also got to want it, and

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how you show up in the world, and how you leave people, and

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how you leave your jobs, and how you leave your work, and I mean

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leave like what you leave behind after you give the invoice or

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whatever. Like it matters because it's how you build a

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reputation. It's how you build a name. And like I said, I know

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sometimes we just have bad days. But if you are finding that you

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are consistently half-assing it, consistently phoning it in,

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consistently feeling like, oh, my hat is only half in this. Who

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wants to be in any kind of relationship, transactional or

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otherwise, where where one person is just my hat's only

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half in it. So I want you to be full-headed with yourself and

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your work, whatever you're creating, right? Whether you get

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paid for it or not, but like your presence, your energy, your

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attitude, your curiosity, your enthusiasm. Right? Let's stop

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half-hatting it. Let's stop half-assing it, and let's let

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let's full-ass. Let's go. Start to get a little punchy. Let's

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let's full-ass it, right? Let's full asset. Let's full hot it,

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and hopefully, hopefully, something I said today lands.

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And you know, maybe it's something you needed to hear.

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Maybe you've just been, like I said, dialing it in, phoning it

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in, just kind of dragging ass and being like, whatever. But

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let's go back to these words. This is important. Mediocre,

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insignificant, inadequate, ineffective, incompetent,

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incomplete, not serious, haphazard. I hope you never get

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called any of those things. You or your craftsmanship. You or

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your art. You or your work. Right. So that's it. Right.

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Let's all do our best to have a level of effort, a level of

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care, a level of love that we're pouring into a thing because

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that's really what this is about. When you half-ass it and

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you half-hearted, what you're doing is you're being stingy

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with your love.

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You're not tapping in to your fullest capacity, and again, I

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know there's somebody out there saying, "But you don't

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understand my situation. I'm exhausted. I'm caretaking. I'm

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doing the. I understand this nuance to everything. Who this

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message is right for? You'll know. You'll hear this, and

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you'll go." Yeah, right. Like, yeah, maybe I want to. Right,

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you're gonna. It's gonna land. You'll know. So if it doesn't,

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if this isn't about you, then it's not about you. So that's

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all I want to say because this is about really. This is about

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really. It's about love and paying attention to our

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craftsmanship. That is showing love, showing up full-heartedly.

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That is showing love, not half-assing it. What half-assing

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says basically is, I don't really give a shit. I don't

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really care. And that's not how you're going to grow your

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relationships. It's certainly not how you're going to grow

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your business. So that's what I got for you guys today. Okay,

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little little love note from my hat, from my hat to yours, and I

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just appreciate you. If you're here, you can still hear the

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sound of my voice. Thank you so much for tuning in and

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listening. It's the beginning of September. I have all kinds of

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shenanigans coming up in September. I have a right club

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at the end of the month here in Concord, New Hampshire,

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Saturday, September 26, from 12 to 4. You can remember

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everything you can find@karenkenney.com online. I

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have space for some Thai yoga massage clients, Thai yoga body

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work clients this month. I would love to see some new people come

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in. My old people are pretty consistent, right? My regulars

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they come in. Some people weekly, some people monthly. So

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that's fantastic. My yoga class is already sold out, but once in

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a while somebody's vacationing or whatever in this room for a

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drop-in. So you can always just hit me up and say, "Hey, any

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room for a drop-in this week? Whatever, and of course the nest

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is ongoing. The nest is there, and you can again, you can find

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it all on KarenKenney.com. Just look up at the header. You'll

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see all the stuff, right? Yoga, bodywork, Thai yoga, right club,

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all the stuff. Okay, so just thank you for tuning in. I

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appreciate you. I hope you enjoyed your labor day and that

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you're having. And that's the other thing too. It's great

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timing, right? It's great timing that this is labor day. A lot of

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respect for people who labor. A lot of respect, right, for for

basically like: 00:26:59

the people who labor, and especially you know, being a

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blue collar kid from Lawrence, Mass, I have a soft spot in my

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heart for hard workers and people who care about the

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quality of their work. So, little love letter from from

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from me to all the blue collar workers out there too. Okay, you

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guys have a fantastic rest of your day wherever you go. May

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you leave the animals and the planet and the other people,

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excuse me, and yourself and the environment better than how you

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found it. Wherever you go, may you and your love and your

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energy and your presence and your attitude and your your full

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heartedness, right? Your haughtiness may it be a

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blessing. Bye. Hey, thanks so much for listening to the show.

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