DON'T BE A PARROT

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Hi, welcome to the Karen Kenney show. I'm so happy

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that you're here, and thank you for being here and spending a

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little time with me. So I think I'm going to call this sucka.

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Don't be a parrot. Like, don't be a parrot. Like, first of all,

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I love parrots. I love the birds, right? But we're gonna

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dive into what I mean when I say, don't be a parrot. And like

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so many of my other shows, these ideas that I get like or when

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something pops up into my consciousness, or it's on my

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mind and in my heart, and I want to talk about it a lot of times,

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it's inspiration from a couple of different places. As you all

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know, I'm a wicked, big animal lover, and throughout my life, I

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have had exposure to actually, different kinds of parrots, like

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actual physical parrots. You know, I had parakeets when I was

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a little kid, my aunt and uncle, who my sister and I went to go

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live with after my mother was killed. They had a cockatiel

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named Bird. Bird, so original, right? So and bird would like,

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sing and cat call and whistle at you and repeat little things. My

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best friend KT, has two beautiful little parrots, and my

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sweeties, um, stepdad, who he kind of considers his dad, also

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has a beautiful parrot. And those parrots, like, can last

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for like you can live for like up to like 70 years. It's

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incredible. And one of the things I noticed, though about

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birds and parrots, that while they do make their own unique

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sounds, they have their own unique voice. When it comes to

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like speaking or saying phrases or whatever, what they're really

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just doing is they're parroting. They're repeating, right?

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They're just repeating things that they heard in their

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environment, or they're repeating phrases and and songs

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or whatever sounds that people in their environment are

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teaching them. So it's not like it's a unique thing. They're

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just kind of, again, using that phrase, parroting back what has

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been told to them. And the reason why this is on my mind,

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I'm going to come at this from a couple of different angles, but

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so often what I see is that people will people will just

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regurgitate and repeat shit that they hear in their environment,

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rather than finding their own voice. Now, one of the things

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where this can get a little tricky, and I see it a lot, and

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I've experienced this throughout my lifetime, is dealing with or

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talking with or trying to have relationships with, people who

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all they're doing is regurgitating from their own

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childhood. They're regurgitating what their parents told them,

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what school told them, what the teachers told them, what the

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priest told them, what whatever told them. And they never got

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curious enough to find out for themselves what they think about

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what they were told, what they believe about the things they

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were told how they feel about the things they were told. A lot

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of times we just end up taking on, you know, the the stories,

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the beliefs, the identities, the whatever from our childhood, and

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then you don't question it. And I see so many people, you know,

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I've, I've had these conversations, you know, one in

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one in particular, with a with a guy I dated. I remember the

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story, and I'm like, you don't even know what you believe faith

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wise and religion wise. You just basically drank the Kool Aid of

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your parents, and now you're just regurgitating it. But if I

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ask you to explain to me what that even means, you can't tell

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me. And so often people are just parroting, like I said, Back

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shit that's on the news, shit that's on, you know, something

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that they saw online, saw on social media, some quote or

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whatever, and they haven't found out for themselves what they

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think about it, what they feel about it, what their unique

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perspective or spin might be on that thing because they've spent

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a little time thinking about it, right, and being with it and

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sitting with it and going like, hey, yeah. Like, I know. I know

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my grandparents always said this money doesn't grow on trees,

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right? But how do I feel about these things? And we have to be

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paying close enough attention to catch ourselves when we're just

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kind of regurgitating and parroting shit from again,

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whether it's our childhood, our parents, our churches, our

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school teachers, right, our siblings, whatever, it's really

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important that we take time in this lifetime to figure out what

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the Fuck we think, what we feel, what we believe, what we know to

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be true, right for us. And I want to talk about this in a

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particular way too, because when we end up just kind of

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parroting, the world misses out. And I've told this story before,

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but I'm just going to tell it really quick. I'm. There was a

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period of time you all know, well, you all know, I don't

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know. Some of you might not know, but if you've been around

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for a while, you know that I lived and worked with Marianne

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Williamson. You know, the writer the spiritual right. She wrote a

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return to love, 1000 other you know, she was written so many

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books, New York Times, best selling books. She's a spiritual

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thought leader. She's a teacher. She's a lecturer. She ran for

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president a couple of times. Okay, so I used to live and work

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with Mary Ann in California. And at the time, like I was in my

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20s, I was so impressionable. I was so like, oh my god, like she

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was, she was a mentor of mine. She was a teacher of mine. She

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was a woman, you know, an older woman that I, that I looked up

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to, and, you know, read all her books, etc, and during my time

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of working with her, I went to go see, you know, a woman who

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did, she was an intuitive. She did readings, tarot readings.

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She like, you know, would basically just, you know, do it

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like a reading for you. And I remember going in, and I sat

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down, and I was all like, you know, just like, if you can't

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see me, I have my hands in my face now. I'm all just, like,

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wide eyed, and I was just like, Oh, I was so excited to be

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there. I had heard wonderful things about this woman, just

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how like, spot on she was, and just how caring and kind she

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was. So I was kind of like an open book, you know, like, I

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just, like, sat down in her room at her house, and so she

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obviously knew my name, and she's like, so, you know, tell

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me about yourself. And I'm like, I'm Karen Kenney and blah, blah,

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blah, blah. And she's like, so tell me. She's like, you know,

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who are you? Like, what do you want to do? And, you know, to

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kind of, like, kick off the session. And I said to her, I

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want to be the next Marianne Williamson. And I was so

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sincere, I was so earnest, like I really meant it, and not that

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I wanted to be Marianne. Like, looking back, I can look and see

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I understood now, like what I really meant. But she said the

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most profound and powerful thing to me and I and she looked me

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right in the eyes, and she said to me, why don't you try being

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the first. Karen Kenney, and she knew something then that my

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brain had not like realized yet, right? Like my lived experience

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had not caught up to yet, which is this, like I needed to be the

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first. KK, because the world doesn't need another copy of

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somebody else. What the world needs is you, and the world

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needs your particular take, your particular voice, your

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particular point of view, your lived experience, your own

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unique and creative and brilliant and wonderful and

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whatever you know point of view. The world just doesn't need us.

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You know, remember how, like, when you would like, I don't

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know if you ever worked at a place where there was a copy

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machines, like nowadays we all have, a lot of us have copies at

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home built into our printers. But back in the day, when you

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worked at a place and there was, like, a Xerox machine, right?

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And you would just get up to all kinds of shenanigans, as you can

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imagine, right? I'm just having some memories flash through my

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head here.

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But if you take a carbon copy, if you take a copy of something,

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even if you did carbon copies, remember back in the days with

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the credit card things, and you'd have to go, chunk chunk,

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right? I'm just sliding my hand back and forth like chunk chunk,

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to get an impression. This is the thing. When we're making a

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copy, we're only getting an impression of something, but

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we're not getting to the root source of where that impulse,

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that creative energy, and that creative impulse, comes from.

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And if you just make a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy, it

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gets it gets weaker, it gets lighter, it gets blander, you

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can't even read it. It's like, where did this even come from?

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And so I'm really a champion of people owning their own unique

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experience and their perspectives and their stories

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and their special, you know, characteristics that that,

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because when you show up in the world and you're like, hey,

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here's what I think about this, you now give all of us a new,

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unique point of view, and it might be a way of looking at a

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thing, or thinking about a thing or experiencing a thing that

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we've never had before. And so if we're just so concerned about

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sounding like everybody else, looking like everybody else,

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being like everybody else, regurgitating what's already out

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there, then we kind of like Rob ourselves, the experience of

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really coming to know ourselves. And I think of it like the

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Divine is expressing itself through us. We've all been given

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in A Course in Miracles. It says like our own individual

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assignment. You have your own individual curriculum, your own

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divine assignment, and so only you came here to express through

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you in your own unique way. So why do we want to just repeat

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what we hear other people saying and doing and being like the joy

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and the thrill of this is figuring out, what do I think?

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What do I believe? Or why do I think that? Do I believe it? And

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a lot of times, we can trace the breadcrumbs right back. We can

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trace that thread back to something from our past,

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something that was said to us in childhood, and in the work that

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I do as a spiritual mentor and a coach, and, you know, as a

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hypnotist, and all the ways that you know, you know that I work

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with people, one of the things that I often see is that people

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are repeating stories. That's why, you know my work, I talk

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about your story to your glory. And so often I'm tracing this

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thread, this belief that people have this thing where they're

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getting in their own way of not believing that they're lovable,

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or not believing that they're good enough or smart enough, or

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they're too much, or whatever the thing is, I'm too dumb, I'm

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too lazy, I'm too this, I'm not good with money. A lot of times,

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there are these beliefs that are like, put in place. And when we

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trace the thread back, when we trace the trail of bread crumbs

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back, it's something that was said when they were a little

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kid, you know, they had a teacher that, with their red

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pen, like, you know, mark their paper, and they thought they

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were stupid, because maybe their spelling wasn't that great, you

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know. And there's a great thing that I, you know, I was just

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listening on the radio the other day, and somebody used this

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phrase, and I wish I could remember what it was, but it was

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something about, like, the way that I reiterated it in my head

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is that story of, like, don't judge a fish by its ability to

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climb a tree. We all have our own unique gifts and talents,

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and I'm not going to expect a fish to be able to climb a tree,

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right, but that fish can swim like a mofo, like in the ocean,

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like, you know what I'm saying. So it's like, I want to, I want

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to, like, hear and see where people are shining a light on

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their own brilliance. And that's another thing. Like, we're often

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really willing to talk about our traumas, our dramas, our

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bullshit, the places where, like, Oh, you don't know how

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bad, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, Yeah, okay, we gotta own

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that stuff too. But let, like, let's also own our brilliance in

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the places where you're wicked smart, or you get you're really

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creative, or you have a really unique perspective in your art

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or your podcast, or the way that you create meals, or, like,

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whatever the thing is, and I don't want to get robbed of not

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seeing your beauty and your creativity in your genius

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because you're so worried about looking or sounding like

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everybody else and just wanting to fit in. And I understand that

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we are pack creatures, you know? I understand that we feel safety

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in groups because it's easier to survive when we're like, pad up

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and stuff like that, you know. But the people who have really

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changed the world are the ones who are willing to, like, go

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outside the framework and do something totally new, and not

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just take the well worn path, right? It's to do something

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different. So I just want to encourage you, like, if you find

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yourself, like, just kind of, you know, repeating shit that

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other people have already done or already said, or, like,

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whatever, like, you know, some people will say there's no

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unique ideas out there. Like, all the songs are just kind of

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using the same chords. All the stories have been told, all the

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songs have been written, and it's like, I understand where

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they're coming from, but nobody is you, even if you're an

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identical twin, your identical twin is not having the same

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exact experience as you are. And there is something right. I

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believe, again, I believe that it. Call it. You can call it

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whatever word you want to call it. You can call it God, you can

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call it source. You can call it creative intelligence. You can

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call it the universe. You can call whatever you want to call

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it. But I believe that there is something really, really

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powerful, call it love, that is trying to move through you and

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express itself in its own way. And this is another reason why,

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like, I think like, I'm going to shift gears now a little bit

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like about not just parroting what you hear out there what you

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see out there. Right now. It's a very, very, very, very dangerous

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time to just be repeating stuff and not getting your sources in

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check, not knowing what the true meaning of a thing is not

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knowing if it's actually true what you're sharing or saying.

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So you know how I told you I worked with Mary Ann when I

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worked in live with her, one of the things that I did, because

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she has this famous quote, right? Most people know it. A

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lot of people know it. You know it's, it's, in her book, a

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return to love. I you know, it begins like, Our deepest fear is

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not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are

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powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, like, who am I to be?

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Brilliant, talented, gorgeous, blah, blah, okay, that quote

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back in the day, right? So this, this was in, let's see, this is

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in the 90s, so, like, probably, like, around 9697

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and the. That quote was getting attributed to, like a Fauci

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like, mostly Nelson Mandela, also to coach kada in the movie.

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But then people were also like sharing it and not giving credit

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or attribution. So one of the things that I did in my work and

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my job is I would find this, I would find where it was being

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misattributed or whatever, and then I would send an email or

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write a note, or I'd make a correction, and I'd say, Hey,

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this is actually from, you know, Marion Williamson's book, a

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return to love, like on page 90 and 91 whatever. And I would

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like tell people, and I'd make the correction. And that that

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doing that again and again and again is probably also part of

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what, why giving credit is, like, so important to me, like,

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why I'm like, please don't steal other people's shit. Please

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don't plagiarize. Please have a fucking original thought in your

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own head and and if you are going to take take something

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that somebody else taught you, or that you read or you heard or

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you learned right like, Please give credit or attribution, but

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even take it one step father, one step further, because

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there's another thing that I see happening a lot, and it happens

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like, again, I tend to catch it with things that I have spent a

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lot of time with, right? Like, there's a quote from A Course in

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Miracles that basically says, Your task is not to seek for

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love. Your task is to seek and to find the barriers that you

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have built against your own awareness of love's presence or

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whatever, right? I cannot tell you how many people attribute

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that to Rumi, and I just like want to bang my face off the

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desk, and I'm not being mean about those people, but what it

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tells me is they saw it somewhere else, and then they

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just attributed it to Rumi, but they didn't do their homework.

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They didn't bother to see if it was true. And in this day and

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age of everybody screaming like fake news and, oh, you're just

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saying that. And this one's that I'm always like, hey, check your

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facts, check your sources, check your resources, check the

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studies, check the science, check where you're getting this

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thing from. If you're please don't be lazy. Please don't be a

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lazy parrot and just regurgitate something when you don't know if

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it's true at all. I see people, especially as a vegan, too.

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Again, I can only speak on the areas that I've spent a lot of

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time in, right learning, studying, living in my own

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evidence, living it. And people just say the most ridiculous

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shit, the most ridiculous propaganda about like, Oh, it's

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so hard to grow muscles on a vegan diet. Oh, being plant

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based, you need to eat animals. No, you don't. No, you don't.

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No, you don't. I cannot stress this enough. Read some fucking

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books. Do some do just do the math. Read some books, find some

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studies, you will find out it's all a lie. It's all propaganda.

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Oh, my God, but we see this happening a lot, especially in

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politics, and it's so dangerous and so like, if you're going to,

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like, please just don't regurgitate shit you hear on Fox

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News or, like, any news outlet, like, do your homework. You

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know, there's a woman named Heather, Heather Richardson Cox,

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and why I like to read what she has to say. First of all, she's

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a historian. She's a professor. I don't care what kind of like,

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I mean, whatever side of the aisle, you know, but she kind of

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looks at things from a historical perspective. But you

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know what she does when she writes a piece at the bottom.

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She cites like any, like everything that she talks about,

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whether she's mentioning a social media post, whether she's

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mentioning like something from history, she will cite exactly

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where the with a link, where you can see it for yourself, where

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you can go read it and think for yourself where you can go find

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out for yourself, like blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So she's

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not just regurgitating stuff. She's basically taking these

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things in watching what's going on in the world, talking about

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it from her perspective, and then backing it up with like

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facts and science and like links and stuff like that. And these

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days, you just have so many people who were just chugging

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the Kool Aid and regurgitating stuff and parroting stuff, and

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they're not checking things out. So I'm looking at this from two

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perspectives. I'm looking at it from what you're putting out

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into the world, right? Do your homework if you're going to

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quote something, do a little digging before you give

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attribution to somebody, because it's probably it might not be

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them, because the frigging internet is like the wild wild

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west, and nobody's really checking. You know what I'm

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saying, any idiot can say anything at any time, and people

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just go like, Oh, well, so and so said it on his blog, and

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we're back. I'm just taking him. I'm rubbing my eyes like, Holy

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Jesus on a crack up. Okay? But mostly, what I wanted to say is

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this, I'm not trying to, like, wag my finger at you, like,

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don't be a parrot. Because, like, I'm saying it because the

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world needs you. It doesn't need you being a cat, like a. Cheap

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copy of somebody else, right? So again, find out for yourself, do

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your research. Read, gather your own experience, gather your own

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empirical evidence, and then make your report to the world,

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right? Then go out and make your report. And you know, I read

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this book once. It was called stay and fight by Madeline

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Fitch. It's a fantastic book. Book. It was a novel. And there

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was a character in this book named Pearlie, and he was the

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son of these two women who lived in the Appalachians and life was

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hard. They had to stay and fight right? They had to stay and

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fight for their life. And I, I'm paraphrasing, but the kid was

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taught by his mothers, and he would say, like, to be

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steadfast, to be resolute, and to make his report right. And so

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I started saying that like to my friends, like, Hey, be

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steadfast, be resolute. And then then go out, go out and

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experience things, and then come back and make your full report.

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And I'd be like, come tell me your stories. Come tell me what

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you learned. Come like, using your own voice, break it down

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for me, so I can see how you process things, so I can see the

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world through your eyes. Because that's what makes it all a

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kaleidoscope, having all these kind of different voices and

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points of view. And, you know, I remember there was a period of

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time like in the in the 90s, maybe the early 2000s and it

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just sounded like there were all these bands. They weren't really

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rock bands. They were weren't really grungy, they were like,

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whatever this new kind of like thing was. And I remember I

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would flip through the stations on the radio and I'd be like, I

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can't fucking tell these guys, one from another, they all sound

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the same. And I'm like, I don't know if they're trying to sound

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the same. I don't know if one just thought, Oh, this is how

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you like, you know, sell records is like, you copy the other guy.

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And there was also this thing that was happening in country

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music where they had basically gotten this formula. And, I

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mean, you can look it up, you can Google it, right. There was

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like, this formula where it was like, insert this here. Insert

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this here. Do this, do this. And all the country songs. And I'm

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not a country fan, in fairness, in fairness, not a fan. But a

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lot of, a lot of the songs were just like, red truck, red solo

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cup, Red Dog, red something, right? I was just like, what?

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Like, what is happening right now? And I was like, please, for

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the love of God, can people get original? Can you stop going for

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the cheap and the easy sell? Can you stop going for the click

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bait? Can you stop trying to just like, repeat and

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regurgitate and parrot the crap that's already out there? And I

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think this is part of the assignment right for us to go

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out there and for us to not be parrots, to not be parakeets,

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right to be persons, to be people with your your own unique

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voice, your own unique point of view, your own unique

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experience, and your own unique stories, and to question the

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ones that were given to you, those identities, those stories,

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all those things that you were told about yourself as a kid.

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Keep the ones that are good and loving. Keep the ones that are

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good and true. Question all the other shit question, don't

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parrot. Don't parrot these stories. You know, from what

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your, what your, your your maybe your emotionally unintelligent

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parents may be said to you right their own scarcity and fear and

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lack of knowing that generational trauma that just

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kind of like rolled downhill and like landed on you. We gotta, we

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gotta. We gotta, like, I'm brushing my body right now. We

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gotta, like, dust ourselves off and brush ourselves off and

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shake off the cobwebs and shake off the dust and shake off those

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old stories and really step into the glory of who you really are,

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because the world doesn't need another watered down version of

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a bunch of other people. What the world needs is you.

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Okay, that's what I had to say. That was what was on my heart,

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in my mind. I hope it was helpful to you in some way, and

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just know that I celebrate you. I can't always see you right,

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because I you know I'm the one on the video, but when I say I

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see you and I hear you, what I mean is like I understand,

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right? I my compassion and my empathy, like I understand that

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we're all out here, and we're we're hopefully doing our best,

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and we're trying to learn, and we're trying to grow, and we're

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trying to, you know, just kind of shed, shed the old skins,

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shed the old shed, the old feathers, the things that you

Karen Kenney: 00:24:30

know aren't helping us to fly anymore. And just know that I

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that I do see you, I do hear you, especially when you write

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to me. And I appreciate you, and I have a lot of gratitude for

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you for being here in my world, listening to the show. So just

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thank you so so so much. You know the drill. If you ever want

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to work with me, if you ever want to join the nest or do one

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to one mentoring, join a yoga class, whatever, you can just

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find me. I'm easy to find online. Just spell my last name

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right, and I'm pretty easy to find. It's k, e, n, n, e, y.

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Karen Kenney. Kenney, go to Karen. Kenney.com, Vaness, the

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quest all that stuff is there. Thank you so much wherever you

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go. May you leave yourself and leave the animals and leave the

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environment and the other people in the planet better than how

Karen Kenney: 00:25:16

you first found it. Wherever you go, may you and your love and

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your presence and your energy and your unique point of view

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your Eunice, right? May your Eunice be a blessing. Bye. You.